amelie
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- Joined
- May 23, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- XNFJ
Well, being INFJ with quite a few xNFJ friends, I can say this: we do genuinely care about people. We really put others before us. We do go out of our way to make others happy.
Does this mean we're sweet, kind, gentle people? Hell no. Or, not all the time, at least.
One of my best friends is ENFJ. Together, we get really moody; we say harsh things about people while they aren't there; we're sarcastic, vengeful hellcats when we're stuck in a bad mindset; we enjoy a great amount of dark humor. Do we genuinely care about people, and do we sacrifice to help them? Yeah, but hey, we're human and we like to have some fun Leave the Bible and the white picket fence at home.
Very true. I'm kind to others and protective of those weaker than me, frequently offer help to others, but when I with my INTJ husband or my closest confidants (a select few), I can be moody, difficult, demanding, and dark. I think it's the backlash of being idealistic and then being repeatedly disillusioned. I want to believe the best of others, and so often am proven wrong - then the long, obsessive analysis begins of what I should have done differently to protect my feelings. I'm very sensitive, which is ultimately draining. I love to socialize, but I also need lots of downtime to process and recover.