EvangelineEmma
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- Joined
- Mar 27, 2011
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- 150
- MBTI Type
- INFP
Based upon an extended period of analyzing my interactions with others, this is what I've gathered:
- I'm very self-conscious in regards to how others perceive me and often mold my values and opinions to fit those of another person to both maintain the peace between us and maintain a sense of connection between us both (horrible as it sounds). I quickly pick up on moods, vibes, and social cues from other people and admittedly become oversensitive and even a bit demanding when noticing that a person dear to me particularly is upset about something and won't open up about it; this causes me, in turn, to be overly persistent in figuring out what's wrong with said person and offering to give them pep talks and work through the problem together, which many of my other IxxP friends seem to refuse and even grow overwhelmed by.
- I have a habit of becoming overly-attached to other people once I truly like them and constantly want to engage in quality conversation with them to find out their every whim and personal perspective and values on life. I particularly enjoy it once a person is honest, direct, and open with me and perceive it as aloofness once the person becomes to reserved, laconic, and private, since it makes it harder to figure out my standing in our relationship and understand them as a person. Whenever a problem surfaces, I also tend to want to discuss it with the person involved in it to manage both of our viewpoints and achieve closure, and again, my desire to talk things through with other people sometimes seems unappreciated or uncalled for. I also seem to idealize people to a fault and place them on a pedestal as well, and become disappointed once they do something that drastically alters my initial perception of them.
- I expect certain things from people during my friendships, and become frustrated when said standards are not met. Although I never enforce my views or opinions on people and generally try to me amicable and understanding, I will become rather upset once I realize or begin to feel that a person is not putting forth what I expected of them in our friendship, and slowly begin to lose trust in them. I also need a lot of love, affection, and mutual understanding when it comes to my relationships with others.
-I'm always trying to figure people out and subconsciously try to imagine what the hidden aspects of their personality that they don't show people are like, which gives me an overactive imagination as I imagine different scenarios involving other people and sort of make up little stories to go along with them. I also love to develop personality in my characters whenever I'm writing fiction above anything else to make them appear as personable as possible and sort of tend to embed different traits in me in them to some extent (if that even makes sense at all).
- I love to understand how people see things compared to how I do, and upon hearing another person's perspective on things, will take their views into account to see what it is that I can learn from them and how they fit in to my own sense of values.
- I self-disclose rather quickly when first meeting people and easily reveal little details about myself, and although I'm often very shy and withdrawn when first meeting people, I love to talk and open up with them once they've earned my trust (which occasional periods of needing alone time so that I can recharge my batteries, being the introvert that I am).
-I love to feel included and at one with other people, and the idea of finding a soul mate or kindred spirit fascinates me (irrational as it may sound). I feel a particular sense of happiness and warmth when meeting someone who's views and values are similar to my own, since I am continuously longing for deep, valuable connections with others.
- I tend to get lost in my own thoughts and daydreams and forget about the present moment, doing things at my own pace and the way that I feel they should be done and accomplished, which often irritates my SJ teachers. Ironically though, I tend to be overly detailed oriented when wanting to meet the standards of an assignment, but in a way, end up creating my own interpretation of everything and forgetting about the standards and expectations my teacher enforced.
- I love to help people and empathize with them and am particularly attracted to lonely, misunderstood looking people (ex. the loner who's always walking around school mysteriously with his long hair hiding half his face, or the strange kid who's constantly doodling anime by himself and for some reason always seems to be avoided by other people) who I feel need my help and try to make open up more (which has, sadly, caused me to initiate several bad, unhealthy friendships with people who share nothing in common with me and never seem to appreciate me as I am). I have some strange idea, I suppose, of sort of being a guiding light for the people in this world who I feel are troubled and in need of a good friend, yet become a little frustrated once I see no results and the person fails to reveal their true colors.
- I am not an organized or efficient person by any means, but I probably wouldn't ever be reckless enough to jump on a Harley with the hot, mysterious guy I met a couple of hours ago at a friends party, and am usually responsible enough to call my parents and let them know what I'm doing, when I'll be coming home, and when I'm coming back, since I also seem to plan everything out in my head in a way as well.
- I have many goals and dreams I wish I knew how to fulfill, but am too lazy and distracted to actually accomplish much of anything; rather, all of these aspirations become mere daydreams in my head, while I continue to go through the motions and stick myself in the same rut I've always been in.
- I'm always thinking and trying to find meaning in everything; I can never just let loose, relax, and enjoy the present moment as it is, or much less have fun without worries at a party with friends. Several of the people I know, in fact, believe that I second-guess myself to much and am constantly in search of answers and meaning in life, to the extent of losing touch with what's really there and savoring everything as it is.
- Although this probably applies to anybody, I could never engage in a certain job for the sake of making money alone if I truly didn't have a passion for it. I'd need a flexible, open environment in which I could do things at my own pace and be able to feel a sense of connection with people who seem to accept me as I am, while impacting humanity at the same time in some way.
- My feelings are often hurt rather easily; any subtlety in facial expression or misuse of words can offset me into a period of brooding and upset, although I usually hide this from the people I don't know well and go on to vent what I feel (rather emotionally) to my most trusted friends and solicit their advice on what I should do from their on.
- Many of the interactions I have with people filter into my subconscious as memories that both impact the way I'll feel about things in the future and offer me more information on how I can better improve myself as a person in the future. I also have trouble letting go of the past and have a tendency to dwell on grudges for long, since once a person has deeply hurt my feelings in some way, I have trouble trusting and fully forgiving them for a long time (although I will try to be tolerant and accepting of them without hinting at all of these hurt feelings for the time being). While everything may seem as if it has all been forgotten and in the past, I'll still feel some sort of slight bitterness toward the person who hurt me and might unexpectedly become snarky and passive-aggressive.
- I am very moody and sensitive, which is something that I truly hate about myself. My views at my age are constantly shifting and changing as I try to figure who I am in relation to myself and others, and I can grow even more impatient whenever I feel people aren't sympathetic or understanding of these moods. People who think either to rigidly, logically-based, or impulsively also tend to frustrate me much of the time, since I often need time to deliberate decisions carefully and think things through myself, after constant self-reflection and engagement in discussion with other people to verify if my views on things are correct or if I need to consider something else. I also like it when people think for themselves and express how they feel about things openly, instead of relying to much on what other people say or expect.
- Even though I do occasionally try to be flexible and accommodate to what other people say, I absolutely hate it when I'm forced to be someone I'm not or forced to be exactly like them, since I like to think for myself and learn life lessons at my own pace based on my experiences and observations. I have an idea of the person I feel I am now and the person I wish to become in the future, and I do not fully appreciate me once people try to make me conform to the "norm" or meet their own rigid expectations of me.
- I couldn't tolerate a lifestyle that is too rigidly structured and predictable, often to the form of monotony, but I do like to feel some sense of familiarity and comfort in situations so that I can still roam about freely without getting too overwhelmed with things happening too impulsively, I suppose.
- I'm naturally very attuned to who I am, how I feel, and what it is that I like and don't like in myself and others, and often, my interactions are based off of ideas and values I've come up with in my own head.
- Although I try to be patient, open-minded, and tolerant of society and it's values, I don't agree with everything that goes on around me or with all of the rules and expectations people have enforced, since I have my own way of viewing things and understanding "right and wrong".
So, I suppose it's between INFP and INFJ for me, yet I still can't really discern which. What do you guys think, based upon what I've shared?
- I'm very self-conscious in regards to how others perceive me and often mold my values and opinions to fit those of another person to both maintain the peace between us and maintain a sense of connection between us both (horrible as it sounds). I quickly pick up on moods, vibes, and social cues from other people and admittedly become oversensitive and even a bit demanding when noticing that a person dear to me particularly is upset about something and won't open up about it; this causes me, in turn, to be overly persistent in figuring out what's wrong with said person and offering to give them pep talks and work through the problem together, which many of my other IxxP friends seem to refuse and even grow overwhelmed by.
- I have a habit of becoming overly-attached to other people once I truly like them and constantly want to engage in quality conversation with them to find out their every whim and personal perspective and values on life. I particularly enjoy it once a person is honest, direct, and open with me and perceive it as aloofness once the person becomes to reserved, laconic, and private, since it makes it harder to figure out my standing in our relationship and understand them as a person. Whenever a problem surfaces, I also tend to want to discuss it with the person involved in it to manage both of our viewpoints and achieve closure, and again, my desire to talk things through with other people sometimes seems unappreciated or uncalled for. I also seem to idealize people to a fault and place them on a pedestal as well, and become disappointed once they do something that drastically alters my initial perception of them.
- I expect certain things from people during my friendships, and become frustrated when said standards are not met. Although I never enforce my views or opinions on people and generally try to me amicable and understanding, I will become rather upset once I realize or begin to feel that a person is not putting forth what I expected of them in our friendship, and slowly begin to lose trust in them. I also need a lot of love, affection, and mutual understanding when it comes to my relationships with others.
-I'm always trying to figure people out and subconsciously try to imagine what the hidden aspects of their personality that they don't show people are like, which gives me an overactive imagination as I imagine different scenarios involving other people and sort of make up little stories to go along with them. I also love to develop personality in my characters whenever I'm writing fiction above anything else to make them appear as personable as possible and sort of tend to embed different traits in me in them to some extent (if that even makes sense at all).
- I love to understand how people see things compared to how I do, and upon hearing another person's perspective on things, will take their views into account to see what it is that I can learn from them and how they fit in to my own sense of values.
- I self-disclose rather quickly when first meeting people and easily reveal little details about myself, and although I'm often very shy and withdrawn when first meeting people, I love to talk and open up with them once they've earned my trust (which occasional periods of needing alone time so that I can recharge my batteries, being the introvert that I am).
-I love to feel included and at one with other people, and the idea of finding a soul mate or kindred spirit fascinates me (irrational as it may sound). I feel a particular sense of happiness and warmth when meeting someone who's views and values are similar to my own, since I am continuously longing for deep, valuable connections with others.
- I tend to get lost in my own thoughts and daydreams and forget about the present moment, doing things at my own pace and the way that I feel they should be done and accomplished, which often irritates my SJ teachers. Ironically though, I tend to be overly detailed oriented when wanting to meet the standards of an assignment, but in a way, end up creating my own interpretation of everything and forgetting about the standards and expectations my teacher enforced.
- I love to help people and empathize with them and am particularly attracted to lonely, misunderstood looking people (ex. the loner who's always walking around school mysteriously with his long hair hiding half his face, or the strange kid who's constantly doodling anime by himself and for some reason always seems to be avoided by other people) who I feel need my help and try to make open up more (which has, sadly, caused me to initiate several bad, unhealthy friendships with people who share nothing in common with me and never seem to appreciate me as I am). I have some strange idea, I suppose, of sort of being a guiding light for the people in this world who I feel are troubled and in need of a good friend, yet become a little frustrated once I see no results and the person fails to reveal their true colors.
- I am not an organized or efficient person by any means, but I probably wouldn't ever be reckless enough to jump on a Harley with the hot, mysterious guy I met a couple of hours ago at a friends party, and am usually responsible enough to call my parents and let them know what I'm doing, when I'll be coming home, and when I'm coming back, since I also seem to plan everything out in my head in a way as well.
- I have many goals and dreams I wish I knew how to fulfill, but am too lazy and distracted to actually accomplish much of anything; rather, all of these aspirations become mere daydreams in my head, while I continue to go through the motions and stick myself in the same rut I've always been in.
- I'm always thinking and trying to find meaning in everything; I can never just let loose, relax, and enjoy the present moment as it is, or much less have fun without worries at a party with friends. Several of the people I know, in fact, believe that I second-guess myself to much and am constantly in search of answers and meaning in life, to the extent of losing touch with what's really there and savoring everything as it is.
- Although this probably applies to anybody, I could never engage in a certain job for the sake of making money alone if I truly didn't have a passion for it. I'd need a flexible, open environment in which I could do things at my own pace and be able to feel a sense of connection with people who seem to accept me as I am, while impacting humanity at the same time in some way.
- My feelings are often hurt rather easily; any subtlety in facial expression or misuse of words can offset me into a period of brooding and upset, although I usually hide this from the people I don't know well and go on to vent what I feel (rather emotionally) to my most trusted friends and solicit their advice on what I should do from their on.
- Many of the interactions I have with people filter into my subconscious as memories that both impact the way I'll feel about things in the future and offer me more information on how I can better improve myself as a person in the future. I also have trouble letting go of the past and have a tendency to dwell on grudges for long, since once a person has deeply hurt my feelings in some way, I have trouble trusting and fully forgiving them for a long time (although I will try to be tolerant and accepting of them without hinting at all of these hurt feelings for the time being). While everything may seem as if it has all been forgotten and in the past, I'll still feel some sort of slight bitterness toward the person who hurt me and might unexpectedly become snarky and passive-aggressive.
- I am very moody and sensitive, which is something that I truly hate about myself. My views at my age are constantly shifting and changing as I try to figure who I am in relation to myself and others, and I can grow even more impatient whenever I feel people aren't sympathetic or understanding of these moods. People who think either to rigidly, logically-based, or impulsively also tend to frustrate me much of the time, since I often need time to deliberate decisions carefully and think things through myself, after constant self-reflection and engagement in discussion with other people to verify if my views on things are correct or if I need to consider something else. I also like it when people think for themselves and express how they feel about things openly, instead of relying to much on what other people say or expect.
- Even though I do occasionally try to be flexible and accommodate to what other people say, I absolutely hate it when I'm forced to be someone I'm not or forced to be exactly like them, since I like to think for myself and learn life lessons at my own pace based on my experiences and observations. I have an idea of the person I feel I am now and the person I wish to become in the future, and I do not fully appreciate me once people try to make me conform to the "norm" or meet their own rigid expectations of me.
- I couldn't tolerate a lifestyle that is too rigidly structured and predictable, often to the form of monotony, but I do like to feel some sense of familiarity and comfort in situations so that I can still roam about freely without getting too overwhelmed with things happening too impulsively, I suppose.
- I'm naturally very attuned to who I am, how I feel, and what it is that I like and don't like in myself and others, and often, my interactions are based off of ideas and values I've come up with in my own head.
- Although I try to be patient, open-minded, and tolerant of society and it's values, I don't agree with everything that goes on around me or with all of the rules and expectations people have enforced, since I have my own way of viewing things and understanding "right and wrong".
So, I suppose it's between INFP and INFJ for me, yet I still can't really discern which. What do you guys think, based upon what I've shared?