KarenParker
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Ahahah you just summed up what me dating an ESFP is like.
Oh I'm so sorry. BUT I bet you guys know how to have fun!
Ahahah you just summed up what me dating an ESFP is like.
Introverted intuition is always seeing symbols and finding hidden personal meanings in things, and all SPs value introverted intuition and like to use it even though they are not as strong as NJs.
Karen I am very happy that you realize you are ESFP. When I learned I was INFP (after years thinking I was ISFJ) I found the experience to be freeing. I really appreciate what you said about giving criticism without it sounding like criticism (I didn't realize until I read your post that I was doing that), and I am very interested in that book about marriage.
Most of my friends in life have been ESFPs. My mother is an ESFP, my father is an ISFP (and I am very close to my parents). My best friend right now is an ESFP, my best friend in high school was an ESFP, and the best friend after that. It's funny because even though you said you needed concrete examples, and I should have plenty of concrete examples and anecdotes, I still based most of post on theory. It was actually hard for me to come up with the few examples I did. But I do have one example I would like to share.
Right now my best friend is in Poland. She's traveled all over the world, and lived in several different countries. 7 years ago she set out to be a Spanish teacher, a wife, a mother, and a full-time Bible teacher. She has been all of those things except for a mother (she's still only 25), in addition to traveling the world and taking advantage of opportunities as they arose. She has lived and worked in Africa, Costa Rica, Jamaica, Mexico, France. She has made so many friends. She is also beautiful, a fabulous dresser, a great teacher, charming, personable, and always on the go. She is always trying to improve herself yet she is very generous and runs herself ragged for her family and friends. She is wonderful with children and animals, and men are drawn to her like a magnet.
Through it all she has been a VERY GOOD AND LOYAL friend to me. Once I went a whole year mired in depression and didn't talk to her at all, and she still left me voicemails and sent emails telling me about her cats or her students, and sent me letters and pictures keeping me up-to-date on her life. I think she knew that most of the time I wasn't even picking up my messages or checking my emails, but she maintained a bond to me and I will be eternally grateful for that (I'm better now and we talk all the time and visit). She (along with my ESFP mother) taught me how to dress, apply makeup, shop, look good, and care about my appearance because it makes me feel good.
So if I could in any way help another wonderful ESFP to know that they are ESFP and how great that is, I am very happy.
This was a really good post, but I have to point out this part isn't true. Personally, I don't value "introverted intuition" at all, and have yet to be convinced that it's ever really a positive thing. I don't like to use it, and if I ever have, then I apologize to whoever I used it on. I hate it when people see "hidden meanings" in things, and I think it's likely the cause of a ton of conflicts in the world.
This was a really good post, but I have to point out this part isn't true. Personally, I don't value "introverted intuition" at all, and have yet to be convinced that it's ever really a positive thing. I don't like to use it, and if I ever have, then I apologize to whoever I used it on. I hate it when people see "hidden meanings" in things, and I think it's likely the cause of a ton of conflicts in the world.
This was a really good post, but I have to point out this part isn't true. Personally, I don't value "introverted intuition" at all, and have yet to be convinced that it's ever really a positive thing. I don't like to use it, and if I ever have, then I apologize to whoever I used it on. I hate it when people see "hidden meanings" in things, and I think it's likely the cause of a ton of conflicts in the world.
This was a really good post, but I have to point out this part isn't true. Personally, I don't value "introverted intuition" at all, and have yet to be convinced that it's ever really a positive thing. I don't like to use it, and if I ever have, then I apologize to whoever I used it on. I hate it when people see "hidden meanings" in things, and I think it's likely the cause of a ton of conflicts in the world.
No offense, but that's because your Ni sucks.
I think that many S's feel they need to change to N after reading this forum for a while.
I know a few esfp's and the big difference I see is that I talk motivations to death, whereas the esfp's I know don't get that. One of my esfp friends really identified with the enfp information, we are similar and that makes it hard.
Jeffster said:--stuff about theatrics and ESFP vs. ENFP--