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Warflower
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Hmmm I'm actually similar, but I have the opposite issue, mostly dominant but don't react well with people who are unwilling to ever take the lead in terms of life. It's really quite exhausting and starts to turn me off from life when I feel that I'm constantly having to micromanage. In addition, because the bedroom is a destress place for me it can becoming very dull very quickly when I'm constantly expected to aggressively take control there in addition to everything else that seems to go on in the world.
I guess that people tend to prefer this dominant-submissive trade-off as much for the clarity of role, responsibilities and communications it brings in addition to the actually sexual gratification that is often both the byproduct and the origin of it.
I'll naturally let people take the lead in every day life, i am very much capable of looking after myself, but when it comes to things like planning or mundane tasks, if someone else is in charge of that, or does it before i work up the motivation i wont stop them, so i guess in a way this is submissive.
Sexually i love being both, i'll change depending on mood and partner, as much as i can't be with someone who is solely sub, i couldn't be with someone who is always dominant, i'd miss bringing out that part of me. The part that enjoys seeing them beg and not granting them relief. (probably TMI; sorry!)