Just text and call every once in awhile just to see how he's doing.
+1
It's those little things that can give us comfort, especially when we're finally able to check back in on our home life. Haha can be like a warm embrace without actually being around each other
When you feel confused/apprehensive about life, what makes you feel happier/more secure?
I would imagine it's too simplistic just to say "order" or "routine". I also assume that this would cause a sort of Fe/Se loop, or elimination of the auxiliary function. How would this manifest itself? Being led by Fe, would it result in thinking "The external situation is wrong/inbalanced" and then be augmented by Se saying something like "What you need is ACTION. Let's radically change the situation since this is clearly the problem!"
I realise that is, in reality, about 4 questions.
For me, order and routine help, but they may just keep me neutral depending on what they involve. I need to be around people at that point. The basis of the socializing depends though. There are times when I need to escape the routine and order, and just re-energize with an external activity and a postiive group of people. Other times I need to flesh it out with another person that I trust to listen and somewhat understand where I'm coming from, even if I don't necessarily require advising.
I think the hardest part here is that ENFJ tends to feel like their own pillar, so when we're confused and apprehensive it's difficult for us to turn elsewhere. Also, our self-preservation techniques are often pretty shoddy. When I need to sort the actual order and routine in my life out, I really need to detach from the shinies that social endeavors bring to the table, because I can get sucked into them and forget about
me.
Difficult creatures? You damn right.
I can't really answer function questions directly. They aren't my style.
Not an ENFJ, but this solves everything: a cup of tea and good sit down, preferably with a calm and quiet friend.
When I'm losing my ground, I like to have someone that will listen, possibly throw some mellow advice, and a good atmosphere.