comicsgurl
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I think this is difficult to understand.
I don't know how to explain it to you.
I think because you are not addicted you experience control in a particular way. So quite naturally you think the addicted have the same experience of control.
But whereas control for you is wholesome, control for an addict is poison.
The proof of this is that when an addict gives up control, say when they reach rock bottom or hand over to a higher power, do they start to leave their addiction.
Your experience is exactly the opposite - control or self-control keeps you safe from addiction.
I do realize that the addict's mind doesn't process information the way a non-addicted mind does, and that the word "control" becomes something totally different for addicts. But a capable, healthy, non-addicted person will try and help the addicted mind return to a healthy state. From what I'm reading (and feel free to correct me if I'm wrong), it sounds like you're saying the addict has control, but the control is based on an addict's definition of control.
My thought is, the addict's definition of control is incorrect - it's an unhealthy depiction of what's going on around him/her. In order for the addict to hit bottom, s/he will have to agree that the "normal" state of control and or consciousness they've accepted under their addiction is a lie. He or she has to come to a place to recognize the lie and to accept help from someone to see things truthfully once again. But are you saying that because the addict has changed his or her perceptions by letting the addiction become such a strong part of their lives, that they can no longer see things in a "normal" way? That their perceptions have been altered past the point of the world's view of "normal"?
I'm trying to understand - and it's possible I may have misread something you previously wrote.