Is stick-to-it-iveness something that you struggle with or struggled with as a child. What suggestions do you have for the parent of an ENFP child who struggles with this?
Loved Ones of ENFPs, how have you helped your precious ENFP learn perserverance without hurting them or crushing their wonderful spirits?
Or is this not even an ENFP issue?
So three answers:
1) Sometimes it is perfectly okay, invigorating and delightful to frolic with abandon and not worry about stick-with-it ness at all. Finding endless delight in novelty and in the beauty of possibilities (ie flirting from one thing to another like a hummingbird) is what defines our worldview-it energizes us, it renews our spirit, it is how we find hope in our world. So-perhaps note if you are trying to redefine your child's worldview via your own? Make sure that when stick-with-itness is called for, thier is a good reason for it, as opposed to just the innate "rightness" of being structured and on task based upon your worldview
2) If we like what we are doing, we will innately stick with it, to the point of obsession (until we get bored and drop it). Let us do this, if it doesnt hurt us. Forcing us to keep doing something stale, is painful and creates resentment. Make sure the task is something important-if you can justify it, we may whine and moan, but we cant argue logic (although we may attempt to counter rationalize, poorly
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3) Teaching stick-with-it ness as a life skill
First-Lists are everything. The kid has no innate sense of logistical order or schedule. Help them schedule thier time and then help them identify organization tools that can assist them. Dont be concerned you are making them feel stupid-that's be a Ti worry. We may not like control, but we do not read teling us what to do as an attack on our innate IQ
Second-Help them Ne see where they will fail in life is they do not stick with it to certain tasks...by 9th grade, they should be able to "see" far enough to start getting a bit anxious. Let them feel a bit of fear over that as fear activates Te
Third-challenge them-the more we try to do, the more we can do....we just dont understand that at first. Once we accomplish something, it becomes a bit addictive and we want to try again. What is really funny and very effective is to tell them "I dont really think you can do this..." as it pisses us off and then we try and prove you wrong...Not sure why, but it is incredibly effective.