Hotherym
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- Dec 7, 2007
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- INFU
So he gives direct, practical advice, that is, "tells it to you like it is" (subjective) rather than trying to analyze things (objective)? But in a loving way?
He's a lot more airy than practical (his practical advice is well-meant but often waffling), but in some areas he has grave difficulty being analytical since he gets 'blinded' (he gets angry when I say that) by his own subjective feelings. He over-analyzes some things in some way that's totally alien to me in a lot of respects--it's all turned inward and passed by his feeling, so it ends up going in a circle (I believe that's how it works, anyway). Our thinking styles are actually a point of contention, though.
But really, it's a good match since I can keep him grounded with the objective and he can 'lift me' with his subjective. Furthermore, he can 'get me in the mood' faster than the INTP I was with, just by utilizing his cuddly romanticism and intense foreplay, while I can make the whole sex experience more spontaneous and exciting by bringing attention to the little cerebral details and drawing out the whole thing as a huge 'spiritual awakening' for us both. I could never do that with the INTPs I've known, but there's no doubt they're fun for the experimental factor if they're not too withdrawn.
I've always had an annoying need to somehow totally connect to the person I'm being sexually intimate with, rather than just enjoying the physical. I have no idea if that's a typical NF thing or not, but it's one problem that arises with me and any NT, now that I mention it. My INFP goes in for the spiritual/connected/empathic loving pretty hardcore, if it doesn't cause his timid self to retreat.
He's probably going to want to kill me if he reads this.