Ya'll are frustrated with NF Male stereotypes?.. I'm bombarded with them as well, only they go way beyond just type.
I've been giving a lot of thought to how I would answer this.. But I think Hexis pretty much wrote what I was going to write.
I think you have no clue who *you* are. You know what makes you happy.. you're not aware of WHY it does. You attribute it to "being a man" because it's the easiest path (Bonus: Society does the same thing as a whole, so to society it also makes sense.. which only furthers guiding you down the easiest path.) The problem is.. you're always taking the easier path when it comes to things that define who you are.
The result is.. when you're trying to describe yourself, you're using a lot of examples and society-based stereotypes. It's all you know, because you've clung close to them. (How I would describe you would involve none of the things you typed, for example. I'd paint an entirely different picture.. one you may not like, but to me would be accurate being your IRL friend.) There's nothing wrong with that by itself, the problem is I don't think it's making you happy. I think you're frustrated and angry with everything because you have no idea how to react.. you don't know who you are, so you don't know how you truly feel on anything.
I'm not going to lie.. I fear your enlistment. The military changes everyone.. it's impossible to not be changed somehow by it. It's not always a good change. I suspect... you'll end up with more contempt for civilians than you already have. (Most military people get frustrated with civilians..) I also suspect your respect for women will continue to deteriorate. You want to learn to pull women up on the same level with you.. and I think that's noble. But the problem is, you won't come into contact with any of them. Military personnel, and the military lifestyle, have a way of segregating women, diminishing them as "females" instead of "soldiers/people". They're always females first. Always. I think if you go into the service.. unless you do some really hard soul-searching now on where you stand with women.. your opinion of them won't ever change. In that.. I think you'll have a hard time finding a mate. I have a theory that people who cannot respect something cannot love it. (You respect weaponry.. and thus you love it and admire it. Your love for it never fades. Whereas.. even though you had an affection for your cat, you did not respect it, and thus love wasn't there for it. It'd wane, come and go, fade.. it wasn't strong.)
I think once you do some real soul searching.. looking for what makes a man who he is, instead of the things that stereotypically correspond to it, you'll find that many of the stereotypes for NFs will roll off your back like water. If you heard a stereotype that all ducks love chicken. You would think it silly, at best, if you thought on it at all.. it's comparing apples to oranges, if it's not an outright lie.
I understand the stereotypes are grating on the soul. But you, too, rely on stereotypes. It's hard to complain about something you're readily willing to give into and use yourself. The best thing to do would be to pull the stereotypes, all of them, out of the way. And look for Why, instead of What.