BlackCat
Shaman
- Joined
- Nov 19, 2008
- Messages
- 7,038
- MBTI Type
- ESFP
- Enneagram
- 9w8
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/sp
Often I am really blunt, yet try to avoid offending people (9w8). I think that I offend people too much, specifically people who are sensitive; or if what we're talking about is a sensitive topic and I am perceiving it in a different way from the person.
Then one of a few things can happen... they get notably offended and I'm really not sure why, they get hostile because they think I'm being a dick, or they bottle up how they are offended and I detect it, but I'm not sure why.
This shit just pisses me off. I do adjust to this after I see that they get offended or I'm told, but I can't help that they get offended in the first place.
It's especially bad when I'm angry. When I'm angry I speak first, think after. And it's usually really bad.
Anyone have any similar problems? Experiences? Are there some people you just can't associate with because of these kinds of things?
Then one of a few things can happen... they get notably offended and I'm really not sure why, they get hostile because they think I'm being a dick, or they bottle up how they are offended and I detect it, but I'm not sure why.
This shit just pisses me off. I do adjust to this after I see that they get offended or I'm told, but I can't help that they get offended in the first place.
It's especially bad when I'm angry. When I'm angry I speak first, think after. And it's usually really bad.
Anyone have any similar problems? Experiences? Are there some people you just can't associate with because of these kinds of things?