I've never really identified with that quote, though I do believe there is some kind of difference between males and females of each type. I don't really see masculinity as some kind of virtue. I would probably have to say that environment plays a big role in this. Before I go on, let me just say that I find gender studies in psychology absolutely fascinating. I wish that MBTI theorists and researchers would dive deeper into gender differences. There are so many things that are different between men and women in regards to our personality that I have learned about in class that I would say that it is almost inevitable for there distinct differences to exist. (This isn't taking into the account the effect of things such as gender-identity disorder, etc.)
We all experience different conditioning from our family, peers, and society in general from the time we are born. Studies have even shown that parents interact with newborn boys and girls differently. As we grow our parents buy us toys that are appropriate to our gender as well. Heaven forbid a little boy pick up a doll in front of his dad! If a little boy is running all around the house he is just "being a boy", but if a girl was doing the same she would (in most cases) be told to calm down. Let me give a couple of quotes from my Theories of Personality textbook:
"Girls are often reminded by peers and media messages that their value depends on how they look. Boys are told that beating others in various competitions is a sign of their self-worth."
I find this one most relevant to the topic. F's value harmony, and so serious competitions (meaning unfriendly competitions) are not really appealing to them theoretically. I as an F have never really enjoyed serious competitions. However, my parents couldn't stand the idea of an unaccomplished son (both my older brothers were good at sports), so I was always thrown into some kind of competition by them. Fortunately I ended up achieving academically, so they got off my case and let me concentrate on that. Basically, society believes men should be competing with one another (very primal if you ask me), which is contrary to an F's natural tendencies. I would say that because of this pressure my parents put on me I am probably more competitive than your average F. I am not a female T so I don't feel comfortable asserting this but I
imagine a strong thinking woman would see looks as less of a priority than other things. However, I'm sure that society has pressured them in many ways to think otherwise. I feel comfortable saying that T women probably enjoy serious competition more than F's, but we all know society's reaction to women who enter into the business world (for lack of a better example of an extremely competitive field), etc. Hell, my family cocked their eyebrows when I told them I was a psych major which is typically a female dominated field (I'm usually the only guy in some of my upper-division psych classes).
"Participants in one study read about someone who was either highly disclosing or not disclosing about personal problems. Participants who thought they were reading about a female rated the person better adjusted when she was disclosing. When they thought the discloser was male, the disclosure was seen as a sign of poor psychological adjustment.Studies find men and women are more likely to be accepted when they disclose within the appropriate social roles for their gender. For men, this usually means withholding information; for women, it means being open and disclosing, but only on topics society deems appropriate."
From an F-type that grew up in a house with 3 brothers, I would definitely say that I was raised to not "disclose" my preference openly. My dad's mission when I was a child was to "toughen me up". Just imagine a 6-year-old INFJ outside looking extremely bored while his dad is trying to make him appreciate the art of tossing a baseball back and forth. That is basically the story of my life. My parents constantly tried to "condition" me (not anything abusive, lol) into something more... male as far as interests, hobbies, etc. I know that I'm masculine acting, but if I were to tell you things I am interested in or music that I like, you would see the obvious contrast.
So, that's my addition to this interesting topic. I just want to point out that I know that there are exceptions to every rule. For example, highly effeminate gay men could potentially fir the female type profile rather than the male type, etc. However, if you were to look at it in the general population I think it sheds some light on this and deserves exploration. There are plenty of straight F men out there that could probably somehow identify with this. My little brother is an F and he participates in sports (my Dad successfully molded him), but he does it more for the social interaction (to "hang out with the guys") and less for the competition.
This is an excellent article related to the topic:
What's It Like To Be A Thinking Woman? What's It Like To Be A Feeling Man?