I know less about the typing than most others here, but I've read that there at least twice as many female ESFJs as male ones. At the same time, the literature also states that male ESFJs tend to be very masculine. It seems to me that female ESFJs have a distinct "mothering" aspect of their personalities, so it would make sense that male ESFJs would be "fatherly" and I do feel that way about myself (at least, as much as a 25-year-old single man would). I enjoy being around children, playing, reading, educational games, cartoons, etc. I also find myself making sure that people get along, rules and guidelines followed and the like. People often come to me for advice, as well. On the negative side, I have had arguments with friends in which they'll say something along the lines of "I don't have to listen to you; you're not my father," which I attribute to my very forceful, often black-and-white way of letting my feelings be known. I get very disappointed when people I care about do something I consider to be wrong. A female flipside could be super-sensitive and caring about their loved ones, a "Supermom" type, but could also nag and be quite stifling, I think.