But I would think most INFP tend to err on passive aggressiveness, silent treatment and those "emo bombs" that Protean was talking about than rage, cry and scream...
Oh I agree about the passive aggressiveness and silent treatment! LOL. I'm not sure what an "emo bomb" is though...but the two INFPs I dated seriously were both hella emo...in fact, the really emo one
hated being called emo! LOL
Yeah, neither INFP necessarily would have crying fits... perhaps my definition of 'tantrum' and 'acting out' would fit more in lines with the 'emo bomb' than the "breaking chairs against the wall and screaming like a caveman" raging that you seem to be referring to?
So INFPs could not be
histrionic in your opinion?
I am not saying they never cry and scream but it'd be really, really rare and even more rare. When I "go through" things, I am very low energy and close into myself. People around me are more like to get fed up with that.
The troubled INFP was always closed in and shut off until she would act out. It was very volatile and tumultous dating her. It was a LOOOOOOOOOT of work and emotionally draining. This is why I no longer talk to her. And I'm used to relating to closed off/very introverted people.
The other INFP who I also lived with - she would shut down/close off and I knew she'd be stewing and I would usually poke at her (in a loving, gf kinda way) until she came out with the reason of why she was angry, until then she'd deny it or just give me the cold shoulder.
Damn...why do I keep dating emotionally immature INFPs with communication problems??? WTH man...
I still think INFP is a card that is given out way too much, much like INFJ is.
I can't disagree with you there, I'm sure you are more familiar with your type than I am. I didn't know people gave out INFJ a lot -since that type is supposed to be so rare. In fact I hoped the other INFP woman I dated was INFJ when we were talking about MBTI b/c I wanted to date such a mythical creature! LOL. But no, she tested as INFP. Close though?
I do think there are a lot of bonafide INFPs though online and even irl where I meet them. But I think that may be because I'm ENFP and I seem to find and attract other INXPs pretty well.
If it's any consolation, I think a lot of young people, particularly teenagers up to early 20s get pegged EP.
Depressed, emo people = INFP
Juvenile, manic people = EP
Nice! LOL.