Immaculate Cloud
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- Jan 15, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- INFJ
I don't like strangers or mere acquaintances touching me and invading my private space. I've told people to 'stop manhandling me' when I felt that I have not given them permission to be 'that familiar' and could not care less about the outrage the remark caused...I also dislike people calling me 'kiddo' simply because I have a youthful face and they get patronising, 'aww, what a a strange thing you are!' Yea, I own my intensity!
And to me, if I hug someone it is because I really mean it. And because that person is dear to my heart.
But I will sometimes sacrifice to social conventions just because I don't want to have to explain myself and my hugging/touching/peck on the cheek criteria...It gets to be tiresome having to explain that I find it ironic that in my culture, you systematically kiss everyone you meet even if it is the first meeting. Stupid. Creates a sense of false intimacy or cheapens what a kiss ought to mean, that's what!:steam:
Some battles are simply not worth it though...
Besides, I have known people in my life who quickly got to the kissing and touching and hugging phase (and it felt good) but they later turned out to be snakes in the grass. So that even their touch seems in hindsight to be 'polluting' and a sense of disgust fills me at the mere recollection of it. Which makes me even more peculiar about who I touch and who I let touch me...
I am aware that this 'don't touch if you're not sincere' policy may cause misunderstandings especially with my IRL ENFPs who typically like to touch and poke if I so much as look away while they are speaking... But humour me will you? In a way it is also a test of their sincerity. Can they get me to do things for them without playing on my emotions through physical contact? Can they make me want to do things for them by being honest and upfront about it?
And to me, if I hug someone it is because I really mean it. And because that person is dear to my heart.
But I will sometimes sacrifice to social conventions just because I don't want to have to explain myself and my hugging/touching/peck on the cheek criteria...It gets to be tiresome having to explain that I find it ironic that in my culture, you systematically kiss everyone you meet even if it is the first meeting. Stupid. Creates a sense of false intimacy or cheapens what a kiss ought to mean, that's what!:steam:
Some battles are simply not worth it though...
Besides, I have known people in my life who quickly got to the kissing and touching and hugging phase (and it felt good) but they later turned out to be snakes in the grass. So that even their touch seems in hindsight to be 'polluting' and a sense of disgust fills me at the mere recollection of it. Which makes me even more peculiar about who I touch and who I let touch me...
I am aware that this 'don't touch if you're not sincere' policy may cause misunderstandings especially with my IRL ENFPs who typically like to touch and poke if I so much as look away while they are speaking... But humour me will you? In a way it is also a test of their sincerity. Can they get me to do things for them without playing on my emotions through physical contact? Can they make me want to do things for them by being honest and upfront about it?