Going through this real quick before introducing you to the other Fe-dom type.
"FeSi’s feel most themselves when they are taking care of others and not expecting anything in return."
^ Nope, I totally want things in return, I just don't talk about them, I'm hoping they will want to do things in return because of gratitude or love. <--- This would be a very E2 sort of response.
"Although conflict is difficult on them, suppressing or avoiding the conflict feels even worse. They will ruminate on the unresolved conflict over and over in their minds, possibly losing sleep over it and imagining things are even worse than they really are."
^ I don't lose much sleep over it, but yes. <-----Because ESFJ has an Ne function, it can create worst case scenarios. This can more be the nature of Ne mixing with a feeling function.
"Once conflict has been resolved, an FeSi will be able and willing to move forward in harmony."
^ I'm not sure. I want the other person to do something to make it up to me. Could be that's my idea of conflict resolution, and when that doesn't happen, it's hard for me to move on.
<----- I agree with you heh. Fe is very adverse to conflict so it is more likely to let things slide if you're close friends.
"If an FeSi sits in a coffee shop and observes people, they can naturally and easily know the general mood of everyone they observe."
^ yes, very frequently, but it makes me jealous because I'm usually all alone and I want to be involved with people that care <------ Maybe a little E9 showing there, wanting to be part of the whole.
"FeSi’s are famous for knowing how to act in social situations, and while some of that ability does come from their catalogue of what experience tells them is most likely to be acceptable, they can also read the room and determine how each individual wants to be interacted with based on the vibes they emit."
^ well sometimes, I can be good at this but I can also make a fool of myself without even trying
<------ You did speculate to have a higher functioning autism possibly (from our PMs, I am not sure if anything is official) but Autism makes social situations harder, because you would have a harder time reading people and detecting the ways you should or should not react to something. It may be something out of your control. <3
"Even if an FeSi knows their blunt friend is trying to help them by pointing out their faults, it usually just makes them feel even worse."
^ absolutely, it's why I hate criticism <----- I think both feeling types can hate criticism. I think it is more how they deal with it that is important. This is more an E2 response as well. E2 hates their flaws being picked out because they want to be portrayed pridefully as wonderful loveable people.
"They don’t see the need to turn everything into a debate, and they don’t enjoy pitting one person against the other. FeSi’s are likely to express their unpopular opinions only with someone they trust who won’t see disagreement as an attack, and who will allow the discussion to remain fairly neutral."
^ yes <------- This again is a bit of a vague thing. I will say Fi, being subjective, is more likely to share its POV with a group than Fe types.
FeNi (ENFJ) — Type in Mind this is ENFJ, the other Fe dom.
After reading this feel free to do similar to above and say whether you relate more to ESFJ or ENFJ.