Blacksheep2017
New member
- Joined
- Feb 26, 2017
- Messages
- 93
- MBTI Type
- INFJ
- Enneagram
- 2w1
I've gotten INFJ in the past and felt very much like it was me in every sense except my communication style. I've always been a counselor, but not necessarily a sensitive one. I work hard to sugarcoat some truths because I know some people can't handle it outright. I have some controlling tendencies where if I see someone not living up to their fullest potential, I make it my goal to try to help them get there. It's almost like an OCD behavior.
Recently, I got INTJ-T and though I do see some similarities, my constant poor self-esteem and constant worrying about what people think of me feels like I'm not as confident as INTJs are supposed to be. I'm doing this questionnaire to hopefully narrow it in to see which one I'm more in line with. Thanks for your help!
Personal concepts
1. What is beauty? What is love? Beauty is subjective to each individual. Love is vulnerability, empathy and humbled.
2. What are your most important values? My philosophies and beliefs.
3. Do you have any sort of spiritual/religious beliefs, and why do you hold (or don't) those beliefs in the first place? I was raised Christian and do believe in God. But I struggle spiritually because I'm constantly questioning and trying to decode scripture and understand what God truly wants from me.
4. Opinion on war and militaries? What is power to you? I feel like war is fought by innocent people for egotistical politicians arguing with others behind their grand desks, prestine suits and steak dinners. I think power is often abused and rarely used for the greater good.
Interests
5. What have you had long conversations about? What are your interests? Why? I can have long winded conversations about politics, human behavior and self improvement. I am interested in psychology and law. I have a deep desire to understand why people are the way they are but also feel a need to correct said behaviors if they're not in line with what I believe to be right.
6. Interested in health/medicine as a conversation topic? Are you focused on your body? I have been interested in holistic medicine as modern medicine and pharmaceuticals can sometimes peak my inner skeptic.
7. What do you think of daily chores? I suck at them. I am easily distracted and will sometimes sit and Google my thoughts or feelings instead of actually getting things done.
8. Books or films you liked? Recently read/watched or otherwise. Examples welcome. I am naturally artistic and am drawn to literature or film that requires a deeper sense of understanding or needs decoded a little more to see the purpose or reasoning. I am also very visual and need beautiful imagery captured in a minimalistic, desaturated or uniquely framed manner.
9. What has made you cry? What has made you smile? Why? I cry over people with cancer. Especially children. I'm a new mother and whenever I see someone's life being robbed away, it hurts my soul. I'm also sensitive to animal welfare and war victims. I smile over stories of people doing extraordinary things. I also really love interspecies relationships. When wild animals can love humans. When a dog befriends a bear. It just feels like that's how the world should be.
10. Where do you feel: at one with the environment/a sense of belonging? I love nature. I feel most empowered by beautiful and isolated scenery. I am drawn to clear waters, tall trees and snow capped mountains.
Evaluation & Behaviour
11. What have people seen as your weaknesses? What do you dislike about yourself? People have pointed out my insensitivity and it is what I am most ashamed of. I value honesty and truth but find that most people hate me for it. It makes me not like myself though it's engrained in my being.
12. What have people seen as your strengths? What do you like about yourself? I get told that my ability to speak up when others are too afraid to stand for a cause is admirable. I do like that I am fearless when it comes to my beliefs and passion for righting injustices in the world.
13. In what areas of your life would you like help? My honesty and direct communicative style.
14. Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it. I do on occasion. I feel bound down to things like marriage sometimes because of financial strains and I want my choices to stay or leave to be my own rather than feeling forced.
People & Interactions
15. What qualities do you most like and dislike in other people? What types do you get along with? I mostly like people who are determined and driven, who see adversity as a bump in the road rather than a complete roadblock. I dislike people who are complainers yet do nothing to change their situation and help themselves. I probably am drawn to more extroverted types as their energy can fuel the drain that I get from burn out due to over extending myself to others and problems.
16. How do you feel about romance/sex? What qualities do you want in a partner? I'm not a mushy lovey dovey type. I can't stand PDA and feel like I'm most attracted to someone who can take charge and give me a break from feeling like I always have to lead.
17. If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why? With my daughter, my main concerns are that she have a healthy childhood that varies greatly from the one I had. I have been in therapy to undo generations of maternal narcissism that have negatively impacted my psyche. It is my main goal and sole worry to give her the mother I never had. One that is supportive, understanding and encouraging.
18. A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward and outward reaction? My inward reaction would be frustration and judgment. My outward reaction would be more gentle but I have an obsession with being right and making people see things the way I do. So I would probably try to persuade in a nice but consistent way.
19. Describe your relationship to society. How do you see people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one. I am generally disappointed with humanity. I feel like people have become self-centered; apathetic towards others and nature. I believe a prevelant social problem is that western society has too many advocates for assanine movements. People don't care to see or support what I consider to be "real problems". I think things like childhood cancer funding, animal abuse legislation, or advocation against war deserve thousands marching in the streets. I find the movements for more liberal ideology to be redundant and past their prime.
20. How do you choose your friends and how do you behave around them? I value people who are genuine and loyal. I enjoy people who I can feel equal to as it is draining for me to have to flex my inner counselor and feel like I'm constantly giving more to the friendship than I'm getting back. If someone is equal to me in terms of career/family success, I am usually upbeat and energetic. If someone is needy and weak, I'm usually angry, frustrated and emotionally drained.
21. How do you behave around strangers? I'm polite. Manners are important to me. I smile, hold the door open, watch my step and when the same sentiment is returned, I feel great. But if I encounter people who are rude or complacent I can quickly become dissatisfied with the social situation and want to forfeit and leave.
Recently, I got INTJ-T and though I do see some similarities, my constant poor self-esteem and constant worrying about what people think of me feels like I'm not as confident as INTJs are supposed to be. I'm doing this questionnaire to hopefully narrow it in to see which one I'm more in line with. Thanks for your help!
Personal concepts
1. What is beauty? What is love? Beauty is subjective to each individual. Love is vulnerability, empathy and humbled.
2. What are your most important values? My philosophies and beliefs.
3. Do you have any sort of spiritual/religious beliefs, and why do you hold (or don't) those beliefs in the first place? I was raised Christian and do believe in God. But I struggle spiritually because I'm constantly questioning and trying to decode scripture and understand what God truly wants from me.
4. Opinion on war and militaries? What is power to you? I feel like war is fought by innocent people for egotistical politicians arguing with others behind their grand desks, prestine suits and steak dinners. I think power is often abused and rarely used for the greater good.
Interests
5. What have you had long conversations about? What are your interests? Why? I can have long winded conversations about politics, human behavior and self improvement. I am interested in psychology and law. I have a deep desire to understand why people are the way they are but also feel a need to correct said behaviors if they're not in line with what I believe to be right.
6. Interested in health/medicine as a conversation topic? Are you focused on your body? I have been interested in holistic medicine as modern medicine and pharmaceuticals can sometimes peak my inner skeptic.
7. What do you think of daily chores? I suck at them. I am easily distracted and will sometimes sit and Google my thoughts or feelings instead of actually getting things done.
8. Books or films you liked? Recently read/watched or otherwise. Examples welcome. I am naturally artistic and am drawn to literature or film that requires a deeper sense of understanding or needs decoded a little more to see the purpose or reasoning. I am also very visual and need beautiful imagery captured in a minimalistic, desaturated or uniquely framed manner.
9. What has made you cry? What has made you smile? Why? I cry over people with cancer. Especially children. I'm a new mother and whenever I see someone's life being robbed away, it hurts my soul. I'm also sensitive to animal welfare and war victims. I smile over stories of people doing extraordinary things. I also really love interspecies relationships. When wild animals can love humans. When a dog befriends a bear. It just feels like that's how the world should be.
10. Where do you feel: at one with the environment/a sense of belonging? I love nature. I feel most empowered by beautiful and isolated scenery. I am drawn to clear waters, tall trees and snow capped mountains.
Evaluation & Behaviour
11. What have people seen as your weaknesses? What do you dislike about yourself? People have pointed out my insensitivity and it is what I am most ashamed of. I value honesty and truth but find that most people hate me for it. It makes me not like myself though it's engrained in my being.
12. What have people seen as your strengths? What do you like about yourself? I get told that my ability to speak up when others are too afraid to stand for a cause is admirable. I do like that I am fearless when it comes to my beliefs and passion for righting injustices in the world.
13. In what areas of your life would you like help? My honesty and direct communicative style.
14. Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it. I do on occasion. I feel bound down to things like marriage sometimes because of financial strains and I want my choices to stay or leave to be my own rather than feeling forced.
People & Interactions
15. What qualities do you most like and dislike in other people? What types do you get along with? I mostly like people who are determined and driven, who see adversity as a bump in the road rather than a complete roadblock. I dislike people who are complainers yet do nothing to change their situation and help themselves. I probably am drawn to more extroverted types as their energy can fuel the drain that I get from burn out due to over extending myself to others and problems.
16. How do you feel about romance/sex? What qualities do you want in a partner? I'm not a mushy lovey dovey type. I can't stand PDA and feel like I'm most attracted to someone who can take charge and give me a break from feeling like I always have to lead.
17. If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why? With my daughter, my main concerns are that she have a healthy childhood that varies greatly from the one I had. I have been in therapy to undo generations of maternal narcissism that have negatively impacted my psyche. It is my main goal and sole worry to give her the mother I never had. One that is supportive, understanding and encouraging.
18. A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward and outward reaction? My inward reaction would be frustration and judgment. My outward reaction would be more gentle but I have an obsession with being right and making people see things the way I do. So I would probably try to persuade in a nice but consistent way.
19. Describe your relationship to society. How do you see people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one. I am generally disappointed with humanity. I feel like people have become self-centered; apathetic towards others and nature. I believe a prevelant social problem is that western society has too many advocates for assanine movements. People don't care to see or support what I consider to be "real problems". I think things like childhood cancer funding, animal abuse legislation, or advocation against war deserve thousands marching in the streets. I find the movements for more liberal ideology to be redundant and past their prime.
20. How do you choose your friends and how do you behave around them? I value people who are genuine and loyal. I enjoy people who I can feel equal to as it is draining for me to have to flex my inner counselor and feel like I'm constantly giving more to the friendship than I'm getting back. If someone is equal to me in terms of career/family success, I am usually upbeat and energetic. If someone is needy and weak, I'm usually angry, frustrated and emotionally drained.
21. How do you behave around strangers? I'm polite. Manners are important to me. I smile, hold the door open, watch my step and when the same sentiment is returned, I feel great. But if I encounter people who are rude or complacent I can quickly become dissatisfied with the social situation and want to forfeit and leave.