1) my feelings are easy to describe in words (conversationally, not in writing)
a) often
b) not often, but more so in writing
Honestly, I am generally not even aware that I have feelings until I put them down in private writing. I really do not like to be seen as an emotional person in real life, because you look weak, but they do sort of crawl up on me especially if I get to discussing something I don't really agree with. But then usually I am just sputtering away while the other person just talks over me.
2) I empathize with people by
a) taking on their feelings as my own
b) thinking about how I would feel in that situation or drawing from experience of how I've felt in that situation in the past
Hm, I don't really know if I can answer this at all. I generally have a sort of hard time empathising at all. Maybe more situational, as it is more of a why are you doing this to yourself sort of thing, but I don't really know. It is difficult, because I generally think about what the reasons are for them being in that situation, how they might be feeling, how it affects me, and what the affects are on everyone who is dealing with them. I do not really have much experience to draw upon, and pity just seems so wrong in and of itself. If I were to pity someone it would be accepting the situation as absolute, and I do not like to do that.
3) my emotions show a lot on my face
a) YES!
b) not usually
This depends as well. I do not generally intentionally show emotion on my face, but I do get questioned often by people whether I am angry, sad, hate them, ect. My face sort of stays an impassive frown, and it takes a ton of effort to force smiles or keep up with whatever is going on around me, so I generally don't. People should not be so fixated on what others are doing, but I suppose it provides them with a sort of sense of comfort to get what they believe as a known reaction out of someone else. Women especially are forced to act the role of the encouraging admirorer, to be force to be submissive and put someone on a pedestal of entitlement is not going to happen. I already ranted about this on another thread though, so I will stop. It is more insincere and does less favors overall anyway.
4) I am good at tailoring my behaviors and demeanor to various social situations
a) yes, unless I am with a really mean spirited group of people
b) no
Again, can't really answer. I can put up a decently convincing front with people if I am in the mood. It takes quite a bit of time, usually music, reading, whatever to get me to a place where I can comfortably come close to matching whatever is going on around me. It is touchy. I can go into an interview, party, group, and if I am in a bad mood its pretty much a lost cause.
5) I place higher priority in
a) unity, team work, external harmony
b) self expression, internal harmony
Again both. I really cannot choose. I generally do not express myself, at least not externally. I like to read, I like to write, and I like to listen to music, but beyond that nothing. Teamwork is fine as long as I do not have to really be completely involved in the team. I do not mind seeing it work together, but I would prefer generally to do things completely on my own.
6) my feelings come from
a) my heart
b) my gut
Huh? Um, I suppose my gut. When I do experience my feelings it is almost like there is something rumbling, sparks are shot off in different directions, and if I do not do what they tell me to do I will explode. If someone is talking about someone else, and really not being fair at all, I usually cannot deal. If everyone is stealing, and they tell me to do it, it is like I am being nailed to the ground, and I won't . It feels gross to go against my gut, gross and wrong, and I generally cannot do it. If I feel something I did was wrong, I generally will not have any solid thoughts about the wrongness, but a sort of general feeling that I am a horrible human being and I usually try to indirectly correct it first, becuz I do not like apologizing. Ill try to dance around it. Then direct, because otherwise...
7) I care more about
a) how a decision will effect people's feelings and well being
b) the principle of the matter.
This is a hard test. To the few people that I actually care about deeply, I would probably place them above any principle. Although I suppose if it came down to it, I would question why there is that choice in the first place. If they were forcing me to go against my principles for them, well that is a different story.
8) the external world has a strong impact on my feelings
a) yes. I am adaptable, but also easily effected
b) no, though I tend to gravitate toward places with a similar vibe to how I already feel
This is generally irritating though
9) my beliefs come more from
a) how I was raised, community values, how things effect people
b) myself. even from a young age, I've always had strong views that sometimes differed from what I was taught. I can't really explain it, they were just "there"
Mmm, the name stubborn rings a bell here. Get called it often, not as much anymore, but even though I don't really see myself as stubborn, (maybe) apparently people very close to me do. It is hard to move my mind, and while maybe I will do what I am told, sometimes, it is generally with very little enthusiasm. Though usually I won't at all.