I feel like there's a distinct difference in outlook between the people who lead with sp and me - maybe more reserved, need more recoup time after being with people, and more concerned about privacy generally. For example, I feel like I do need a little alone time, but as long as people allow for spaces in the conversation from time to time or if I can get away for 5 or 10 minutes here or there, I can recharge fairly nicely. I would be pleased to have people drop by my house unannounced (provided they were people whose company I like and they can hang loose if things are a little messy right then), whereas I think many sp types don't appreciate or enjoy that. I'm not completely sure how much though is upbringing, what types your parents were, the circles you turn in, your line of work, and your experiences that also may contribute to those differences. I don't know enough who enough so/sx people are to be able to compare. The INFJs that are 4s with an sp instinct seem to me like the kind that have elevated Fi levels compared to some other INFJ types. I may be mistaken though. I would probably categorize myself as pretty flexible for most things and am happy to leave a lot of choice up to the people I am with. However, if plans suddenly change from something I really had set my heart on (eating somewhere I really liked that I would not have the opportunity to go to much for example), it might take me about 10 or 15 minutes to rethink it or it may bother me if I feel like I give the person lots of scope for their own decisions most of the time. I'm fairly resistant to trying some kinds of new things on my own, although I appreciate those who (sensitively) push me to do so. I usually need some time to get used to the idea first. I prefer to avoid committees entirely (don't really identify with the teamwork description of INFJ learning), or if I am on one, then I would like to either be running it (if it's something I really care about), or be a drone, but not have all of us being equally contributing members.
What do you think, State?
i think so dom seems far more flexible, fluid, open, and naturally receptive to a diverse stream of inputs. it's not so impatient and is much much much better at handling frustration that sx types, who demand immediate change. the sp gets more frustrated, apathetic, and potentially resentful. i feel my energy rise too easily in a way that can hamper positive maneuvering, at times.
the so/sx e4 infj girl i know was much more go with the flow. very matriarchal, mothering/nurturing, not intensely focused on you but aware of the whole social context/situation, monitoring it very very well. i lose my bearings in terms of social context somewhat easily (it is an inferior instinct), and i have this kind of all in or all out quality. i'm either intensely focused on you, what you're doing, where you're going, how we're intersecting, or i'm kind of distant and getting a sense of something that is private (this distance i think is why they describe sp as earthy, mysterious, etc). like just a sense of weird diffusion beyond the scope of the group, connecting to something broader, less contextual, more ecological.
i also generally dislike unexpected interruption unless it's from the very few people who can immediately pry me open. generally this works best with enps, who are great at immediately locating wherever you are in your own kind of emotional/mental headspace. it requires no effort from me because the connection is just already open, as if the language for communicating is just natural and effortless unless it is deliberately being blocked for ego reasons, drama, etc. with other types i probably have to gear up a little more, and the sense of self-consciousness, of wanting to be interpreted in a way that i find is accurate and still positive, makes me expend more energy.
so/sx types, and i know mostly nfp so/sx types, seem very light-hearted, gregarious, socially skilled, funny and self-deprecating. it's very reassuring, and the /sx makes them capable of finding the differences, relating very specifically, providing recognition, while still allowing you a looser kind of less self-aware freedom, liteness, buoyancy.
...differences between I and INFJs who are sp/sx or sp/so. Hmm, I would say I am more direct, have more of a desire for close contact, am more open once a person is past the initial barriers. But less settled emotionally, and always seeking and rarely finding.
the constant seeking is a general quality of all sx people, and the rarely finding more so with the /sp types, vs the /so types who find all the time? i want to understand how sx/so operates in order to realize my way, and realize some of the problems that hamper me from finding, some of the obstacles that i do not see that i have allowed to multiply themselves within my way of thinking, seeing, evaluating etc. but also to realize what is POSITIVE about the /sp grounding that sometimes i feel like sx/so types could benefit from as well in a similar way to how i benefit from /so openness in them (coming to terms with the inferior, etc).