I test right on the borderline of ENTJ and ENFJ, and I can’t relate to the description of either type, so I was hoping to get an outsider’s perspective to figure out where I’m going wrong. On the outside, I’m closer to somewhat of a deliberate Fe user. I say deliberate because before discovering MBTI, I’d progressed from a humanist, to an existentialist, to an existential nihilist, to a moral nihilist (clearly loved labels) and eventually felt that while there’s no logical basis for the existence of morality itself, by any logical standard humanity obviously benefits from consistent ethical convention. That now leaves me wondering whether my adherence to objective ethics is more conscious decision than innate preference and I’m therefore not a true xxFJ.
For starters, It’s sad to admit but I think one of, if not the biggest, cornerstones of my personality is a baseline of anger. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve tried to turn it into more of a playful kind of (though it’s still slightly abrasive) banter-y type thing. But occasionally I still lose it, only to regret it immediately afterwards. Also, Fe-Ni seems to me to have people or relationship oriented goals. Mine are all self-centered.
On the other hand, I do relate to Fe’s need for “appropriatenessâ€. I’m acutely aware of how my presentation is likely to be perceived by others. Sometimes this goes too far and I’m overly formal. Think C-3PO, but with bouts of manic euphoria. Usually it’s more a narcissistic ennea-3 way of obsessing over people’s admiration. Also I’m usually very protective of people’s feelings and general harmony.
If anyone could help me figure out which of the two types (or maybe another one) seems more likely, that’d be great
Though after reading over this I apparently just need someone to direct me to whichever type has the lowest self-esteem.
For starters, It’s sad to admit but I think one of, if not the biggest, cornerstones of my personality is a baseline of anger. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve tried to turn it into more of a playful kind of (though it’s still slightly abrasive) banter-y type thing. But occasionally I still lose it, only to regret it immediately afterwards. Also, Fe-Ni seems to me to have people or relationship oriented goals. Mine are all self-centered.
On the other hand, I do relate to Fe’s need for “appropriatenessâ€. I’m acutely aware of how my presentation is likely to be perceived by others. Sometimes this goes too far and I’m overly formal. Think C-3PO, but with bouts of manic euphoria. Usually it’s more a narcissistic ennea-3 way of obsessing over people’s admiration. Also I’m usually very protective of people’s feelings and general harmony.
If anyone could help me figure out which of the two types (or maybe another one) seems more likely, that’d be great
Though after reading over this I apparently just need someone to direct me to whichever type has the lowest self-esteem.
