I've taken quite a number of tests, and while INFJ maybe comes out about 70% of the time, I do get other results (INFP, ISTJ, INTJ).
When I first got into personality in high school, I believe I originally typed as an INTJ. But, I very much WANTED to be the "Scientist," so I can definitely see how my answers may have been biased.
Ever since, I've been typed as INFJ on the majority of tests I take, but the description of INFJs doesn't seem to match me much (at least, in my completed biased opinion ).
So, I guess a few things I should mention:
1) I AM the person that family and friends go to for advice and counsel, and people open up to me very easily. The latter makes me very uncomfortable, and the former can get tiring.
2) I'm very much a problem solver. I'd rather suggest possible paths that one could take instead of offer them emotional support.
3) When emotional support is required, I feel SO fake. The words leave my lips and I may offer a hug or pat on the arm, but it feels very NOT me.
4) In groups (thinking school and work), I very often step up and take control. I try to get an idea of what everyone is thinking, and then offer a few ways we could maybe incorporate everyone's ideas. I cannot stand when others slack, but instead of directly calling them out, I nudge them for ideas or ask if they have any input.
5) I feel very uneasy when others are upset, and I try to diffuse through redirection.
6) I problem solve out loud, but it's usually in the form of conversations with myself. Like, I speak as if someone is asking me interview questions or as if I'm taking directly to another individual. I also do this when I am excited or upset over a particular event. For example, I recently landed a freelance position I really wanted, and I kept going over (out loud) how awesome the position was, what pay I would make, what I would be doing, how it would affect other aspects of my life, etc.
7) When something bad happens, I immediately think of how it will affect me and how put out I'll be.
8) I have different "masks" for different people. I'm my truest self with my husband and two best friends (but even then, there's parts of me that I don't share), but everyone else, including my parents, sister, acquantinces, classmates, freelance clients, etc. gets a different version of me.
9) I hop from interest to interest, and I exhaust myself with researching and rabbit trails until I feel satisfied.
10) I can talk about my interests forever (psychological theories, new scientific breakthroughts, etc.), but I can also sense when the person I'm speaking with is bored.
11) I value truth and honesty, but I'm also worried that someone's feelings will be hurt, so I avoid bluntness.
12) I feel empathy for humanity as a whole, but not usually for individual people. Animals, on the otherhand, are my weakness. I cannot watch shows or movies which include animal abuse or death, and I've cried over more than one dead animal on the side of the road.
13) I absolutely hate people who cannot help themselves.
14) I am very sensitive and working in retail absolutely destroyed me. I would handle difficult customers as best I could with a stiff upper lip, and then I would bawl more often than not once that interaction was over.
15) If I'm working on something with my husband or friends (building a shelf or what have you), I feel it necessary to say the plan of action out loud, and then continually refer back to that plan and modify as we go along. It's a bit hard to explain, but I know it drives people batty. It's as if I'm just trying to keep everyone on the same page.
16) I get irrationally upset when people blather on about reality TV or the latest TV show. On the other hand, I love talking about my favorite shows (I know, I'm a hypocrite!)
17) I get lost in thought easily. I'm usually replaying past conversations or events, and it's not until my husband is halfway through a sentence that I realize he's speaking. This happens a lot when I walking in nature, too.
I feel that INFJ is a mistype because I'm not a counselor in the usual sense. People DO see me as one, but I really don't like the role. I could not imagine working as a counselor/teacher/doctor because close contact with other humans means more chances to be hurt. I actually work as a freelance writer and editor, so all of my customer contact is through email.
Please let me know if I left anything helpful out! I've been studying the cognitive functions, but I just have so much trouble viewing my own processes in an unbiased manner, so it's hard for me to choose which functions are the ones that I use most.
I really appreciate any insights!
When I first got into personality in high school, I believe I originally typed as an INTJ. But, I very much WANTED to be the "Scientist," so I can definitely see how my answers may have been biased.
Ever since, I've been typed as INFJ on the majority of tests I take, but the description of INFJs doesn't seem to match me much (at least, in my completed biased opinion ).
So, I guess a few things I should mention:
1) I AM the person that family and friends go to for advice and counsel, and people open up to me very easily. The latter makes me very uncomfortable, and the former can get tiring.
2) I'm very much a problem solver. I'd rather suggest possible paths that one could take instead of offer them emotional support.
3) When emotional support is required, I feel SO fake. The words leave my lips and I may offer a hug or pat on the arm, but it feels very NOT me.
4) In groups (thinking school and work), I very often step up and take control. I try to get an idea of what everyone is thinking, and then offer a few ways we could maybe incorporate everyone's ideas. I cannot stand when others slack, but instead of directly calling them out, I nudge them for ideas or ask if they have any input.
5) I feel very uneasy when others are upset, and I try to diffuse through redirection.
6) I problem solve out loud, but it's usually in the form of conversations with myself. Like, I speak as if someone is asking me interview questions or as if I'm taking directly to another individual. I also do this when I am excited or upset over a particular event. For example, I recently landed a freelance position I really wanted, and I kept going over (out loud) how awesome the position was, what pay I would make, what I would be doing, how it would affect other aspects of my life, etc.
7) When something bad happens, I immediately think of how it will affect me and how put out I'll be.
8) I have different "masks" for different people. I'm my truest self with my husband and two best friends (but even then, there's parts of me that I don't share), but everyone else, including my parents, sister, acquantinces, classmates, freelance clients, etc. gets a different version of me.
9) I hop from interest to interest, and I exhaust myself with researching and rabbit trails until I feel satisfied.
10) I can talk about my interests forever (psychological theories, new scientific breakthroughts, etc.), but I can also sense when the person I'm speaking with is bored.
11) I value truth and honesty, but I'm also worried that someone's feelings will be hurt, so I avoid bluntness.
12) I feel empathy for humanity as a whole, but not usually for individual people. Animals, on the otherhand, are my weakness. I cannot watch shows or movies which include animal abuse or death, and I've cried over more than one dead animal on the side of the road.
13) I absolutely hate people who cannot help themselves.
14) I am very sensitive and working in retail absolutely destroyed me. I would handle difficult customers as best I could with a stiff upper lip, and then I would bawl more often than not once that interaction was over.
15) If I'm working on something with my husband or friends (building a shelf or what have you), I feel it necessary to say the plan of action out loud, and then continually refer back to that plan and modify as we go along. It's a bit hard to explain, but I know it drives people batty. It's as if I'm just trying to keep everyone on the same page.
16) I get irrationally upset when people blather on about reality TV or the latest TV show. On the other hand, I love talking about my favorite shows (I know, I'm a hypocrite!)
17) I get lost in thought easily. I'm usually replaying past conversations or events, and it's not until my husband is halfway through a sentence that I realize he's speaking. This happens a lot when I walking in nature, too.
I feel that INFJ is a mistype because I'm not a counselor in the usual sense. People DO see me as one, but I really don't like the role. I could not imagine working as a counselor/teacher/doctor because close contact with other humans means more chances to be hurt. I actually work as a freelance writer and editor, so all of my customer contact is through email.
Please let me know if I left anything helpful out! I've been studying the cognitive functions, but I just have so much trouble viewing my own processes in an unbiased manner, so it's hard for me to choose which functions are the ones that I use most.
I really appreciate any insights!