I'm not good at typing people, and I'm especially bad with people I know. Please help.
My Mother – ISFJ?
- very introverted – that’s a given
- Sensor I think – not abstract or philosophical, very concrete, though idealistic (not realistic) about people
- Can’t be alone. Married 3 times, had the next husband lined up before divorcing previous guy
- Goes for losers and hopes they will change, but instead gets an alcoholic cheater and/or is abused but stays for years. We all have to hear her moaning about what a loser she’s married to but refuses to leave. Thinks they will change once …..they get a better job, life is less stressful, they go to counseling etc.
- Is critical, especially about those not really close to her. Will watch a serious movie and be critical of the actresses clothes, or nose.
- Has a very long memory and has a hard time forgiving
- Is very well-kept for her age – looks 10 years younger (could be the two facelifts), snazzy dresser – slim but always worrying about her 5 pounds
- Interests include cooking, hosting family parties, traveling to all-inclusive resorts, decorating, architecture,
- likes to go to pubs with her husband and have drinks, dance
- Works in a high-end ladies clothing store and is a top seller despite her introvertedness. Is a trained florist but prefers fashion jobs
- likes to do things for people to help them.
- does not think things through, never uses any logic to make decisions
- got a million dollar divorce settlement from my father back in the 80s. Put it in her checking account and withdrew 100,000 per year for about 10 years. Now she works for $11 an hour.
- Not good in a crisis and can't see both sides to major issues. When my sister was 18 and got pregnant, my mom practically made the appointment for the abortion for her. Also when my other sister got a false positive for a Down Syndrome when pregnant, again my mom immediately brought up termination in the first sentence she uttered. She’s got two ways of dealing with things 1) immediately take care of it - DONE! 2) not deal with it at all (sweep it under the rug)
- we are close now that I'm older but she sucked as a mother when I was young. Kind of ignored us and let us raise ourselves. Not emotionally there for us at all. No guidance and no support at the time.
My friend – ISXX?
- early 50s. Fashion design degree, worked as an assistant to Christian Dior, but then got a job as the head of ‘clothing fit’ for a major national department store. Totally up her alley since she’s a complete perfectionist about the smallest details. Can tell if a seam is off by a millimeter
- now is an interior decorator. We work together really well and are very similar in many ways but there are differences.
- Like me she’s quite analytical for an artistic type. Isn’t artsy-fartsy.
- Is more detail oriented in every way than I am. While I’m good at space planning and coming up with a concept, she’ll spend an hour fussing over the pillows, making sure the pictures are hanging exactly right.
- She notices things like incorrect spelling and grammar. She recently called a radio station to complain about one of the DJ’s grammar.
- Very socially liberal and is quite easy-going when it comes to her teen kids. Not religious. She has seen no evidence of God so she’s not religious.
- Seems to be generally quiet in a new group but chatty when comfortable or around friends – just like me.
- is super funny - has a quiet wit based on careful observations (about things going on or life in general)
- Hobbies include sewing clothes, traveling, photography, fixing up her house