Galaxy Gazer
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DISCLAIMER: I am aware that a person can't be diagnosed with a personality disorder over the internet. I just want to see if my observations make any sense.
Okay, first, here's some background information. I have this xNFP friend. She's 17 and a senior in high school. She has a lot of issues, including depression, and lately I've been noticing some unusual behavioral patterns that seem to coincide with the symptoms of histrionic personality disorder. Some of these behaviors are:
-She has a tendency to tease and mock her friends in person but compliment them over the internet and only say nice things about them to other people. For example, she often points out that I suck at makeup, hair, and nails (especially when I acknowledge it first) but she leaves a great number of comments online saying that I'm pretty, that she's jealous of me, etc.
-Upon receiving a compliment, she typically replies with something along the lines of "I know." She means it in a joking way, but I thought it was worth noting that if praise means a lot to her, as it typically does in people with HPD, she doesn't show it.
-She is extremely sensitive. If a person makes a negative comment toward her, even if it is meant as friendly teasing, she takes it personally and becomes sullen and/or withdrawn. As you can probably imagine, this makes for some very awkward situations. This most often happens online.
-She often makes statements such as "everyone hates me" and "I'm so ugly that no guy would want to date me," despite having an extremely active social life and several past relationships. She is very uncensored when she is in these self-deprecating moods, and will even reveal these insecurities to complete strangers.
-She sometimes speaks very dramatically for the purpose of entertainment. Sometimes while driving around with her, she will jokingly yell or scream if something unfortunate or exciting happens.
-She tends to reject advice and possible solutions from others. One time she said she felt shitty, so to lighten the mood, I sent her a Buzzfeed quiz titled "what should you do to feel less shitty?" The results included taking a shower, driving around, being in nature, talking with a friend, etc. Her immediate reaction was that none of the solutions would work.
-She is very upbeat and energetic in person, despite how sullen she can be while talking over the internet. She could talk for hours about pretty much anything and is very light hearted and fun.
Like I said, I'm not expecting anyone to say for sure whether she has histrionic personality disorder or anything else. I'd just like to get a better idea of how to understand and relate to her. If anyone has an idea as to whether she is INFP or ENFP, and her enneatype, that would be helpful as well.
Okay, first, here's some background information. I have this xNFP friend. She's 17 and a senior in high school. She has a lot of issues, including depression, and lately I've been noticing some unusual behavioral patterns that seem to coincide with the symptoms of histrionic personality disorder. Some of these behaviors are:
-She has a tendency to tease and mock her friends in person but compliment them over the internet and only say nice things about them to other people. For example, she often points out that I suck at makeup, hair, and nails (especially when I acknowledge it first) but she leaves a great number of comments online saying that I'm pretty, that she's jealous of me, etc.
-Upon receiving a compliment, she typically replies with something along the lines of "I know." She means it in a joking way, but I thought it was worth noting that if praise means a lot to her, as it typically does in people with HPD, she doesn't show it.
-She is extremely sensitive. If a person makes a negative comment toward her, even if it is meant as friendly teasing, she takes it personally and becomes sullen and/or withdrawn. As you can probably imagine, this makes for some very awkward situations. This most often happens online.
-She often makes statements such as "everyone hates me" and "I'm so ugly that no guy would want to date me," despite having an extremely active social life and several past relationships. She is very uncensored when she is in these self-deprecating moods, and will even reveal these insecurities to complete strangers.
-She sometimes speaks very dramatically for the purpose of entertainment. Sometimes while driving around with her, she will jokingly yell or scream if something unfortunate or exciting happens.
-She tends to reject advice and possible solutions from others. One time she said she felt shitty, so to lighten the mood, I sent her a Buzzfeed quiz titled "what should you do to feel less shitty?" The results included taking a shower, driving around, being in nature, talking with a friend, etc. Her immediate reaction was that none of the solutions would work.
-She is very upbeat and energetic in person, despite how sullen she can be while talking over the internet. She could talk for hours about pretty much anything and is very light hearted and fun.
Like I said, I'm not expecting anyone to say for sure whether she has histrionic personality disorder or anything else. I'd just like to get a better idea of how to understand and relate to her. If anyone has an idea as to whether she is INFP or ENFP, and her enneatype, that would be helpful as well.