Most definitely not INFP. I dont see a hint of Introverted Feeling coming through, honestly. It's totally out of the question.
Anyhow, I go by the manner in which someone describes themselves and how their personality comes across over what they say about themselves. After a few paragraphs, ESFx was very clear to me. Then the OP explained pretty welll why she is not a Se type...but she didnt demonstrate a Ne dominated mentality. Certainly Fe is there, but it's in the personality more than the statements (better indicator of the dom, as IMO, statements may reflect the supporting aux and tert functions which is exactly what we get here....).
The OP uses very concrete language, refers to specific things that have happened to her to explain things, and is clearly focused on details.
ESFJs are said to have a "get things going" interaction style, which is otherwise associated with three ExxP types, plus they have tertiary Ne, so mistaking themselves for ENFPs is not unusual. They may not identify with some J stereotypes, and then the ESFJ description doesnt sound like the current cultural ideal, so young ESFJs may really not relate.