I'm new here but I've been really into personality psych for about two years now. For the past two years, every time I test I would get INFP. I looked into it and it definitely resonated with me, but there were things that didn't (as with most people, I'm sure). I also have been in a bad funk the past couple of years, too, with terrible work atmospheres and the whole "figuring out who I am".
Okay, I'll get to it...I have been feeling much better the past few months with (finally!) a job atmosphere more conducive to my style and overall being more confident.
Now, I am not a super extraverted person socially; I don't have a ton of friends I hang out with, but I think a lot of people like me/kind of drawn to me. I'm also very flirty but don't mean to be. I love getting to know individuals and can't stand awkward silences. I also hate when I feel like the person I'm with doesn't want to talk. I have read that the majority of INFPs keep emotions inside. I DO NOT DO THIS. I simply cannot do this. I have to talk about my feelings.
I just can't figure it out!! I don't believe in ambiversion, though, because that would mean two functions are constantly fighting each other and I don't think that's how our minds work.
Anyway, thanks in advance for any insider info!! x PEACE.
P.S. I don't know what the thread icons are so I just picked one I liked. Didn't think about that before I posted. Sorry if it's "wrong" for this thread!!
That thread title sure ain't the work of an INFP And your whole post is OBVIOUSLY not introverted. You're definitely EFP, probably ENFP. I can hear it in your writing voice, dude. Also, the "I'm really flirty but I'm not trying to be" is a classic ENFP refrain.
Firstly- thanks, @BadOctopus, for asking others to help out!! Much appreciated.
A couple of things:
I realize I probably sound like I scream E in my post, so let me even the playing field a little...
I am pretty laid back/can definitely be laZy, capital Z. I do get excited easily though.
I also can be VERY sensitive to loud noises or lots of activity around me. It will drain me pretty quickly, unless it's good music or an exciting event, like a music festival.
I am a BIG over-analyzer. (i.e., aka 'ironic example' --this post.)
I also have never thought of myself as an extravert. Ever. Well, until recently obviously.
Many thanks to those who have posted!!
If you think you're introverted, I'm not going to stop you, but in my opinion this post changes nothing.
What you describe is not incompatible with being an ENFP. SOOO many ENFP's think they're introverted. I still think I'm introverted sometimes, because I almost never leave my house, I'm always daydreaming and reflecting, and I hate big parties. I think it's because Ne is less tangible and external than the other extraverted functions Fe/Se/Te, so it doesn't always look extraverted. Besides, everyone has an introverted and an extraverted side. Paraphrasing Jung, a pure extravert/introvert would belong in an asylum.
PS a classic "type me" rule of thumb is that INFP's rarely think they're ENFP's, but ENFP's very frequently think they're INFP's.
yeah, i'd definitely buy ENFP for you. ESFP isn't ruled out by your OP at all, but if you resonate with Ne-Fi and just aren't sure of your stacking, then i'd say for SURE ENFP. i'm kinda weirdly ambiverted. introverts make me feel like a loud crazy person, and MANY extroverts make me feel like a low energy wallflower.