Can you tell me how Ti makes me loud?At school or at work or with friends. At school, I usually bantered with teachers and professors. At home, I was quiet, isolated, alone. One aunt was shocked I could after we had a conversation when I was 11 during a car trip. She said, "I don't remember you ever talking before!"
I had a bunch of friends. I never had trouble making friends, but I was always distant. My friends never got my hopes or fears. They were must fire having fun. I didn't even admit tell them when in had crushes on girls. I also compartmentalized my friends. With every little overlap.
Even with all this, I thought myself incapable of socializing. So, I picked girls up at random at dances and such and having them jump my bones a few minutes later, but I thought I struggled finding girls. I chat up people all day long, but felt I couldn't connect.
It was only with my midlife crisis that begun last year that I started to accept the true me.
It would mean you were followed your inferior Ti, the other half of Fe. It is what I did.
This post Why the Inferior Function is So Important seemed help me understand the inferior function much better.
Dom inf are in a tug of war and we can get stuck.
For me, I never thought I was an extrovert. I hated the idea of being a J. I hated the idea of being a feeler.
I worked in a career where I would have succeeded far more if I had been self-aware (though I was still really good at my job, I just didn't feel right.....) If I had only gone full Fe, I would have been rockstar in the field instead of miserable.... oh, well....
Everything is perfect. The past is dead. I make my future. And you make yours.....