I dunno. I am 47 and been a practicing typologist for 7 years now. I am pretty aware. Plus the official mbti tested me out as an intp, and with that you have a debriefing as well, to make sure.The test result is likely from your own lack of self-awareness.
But Ti/Se will be so different than Ti/Ni. Indeed, that might have been why he and I clashed so much in solving problems, was because our Ti had such a different flavor.You mentioned your ex was a Ti dom, so that exposure could definitely influence your functions.
Why?Add in a difficult childhood (almost guaranteed for Fe doms and auxs) and your functions get screwed up.
I am pretty open to flowing with whatever day I need to have. I do not believe in forcing function growth, but letting them occur as they will. I like to let Se take over for sure. Just not very often. In fact, my fav extraverted function is Fe being used one-on-one. But my fav functions are Ni/Ti/Si. I get kind of cranky when I have to get drug out of my head very much. And I'm always seeking those deep convos. That is why I like Fe one-on-one, because it affords me the opportunity to fuel my Ni/Ti i think.I would recommend focusing on your Se for a bit. It should help you break out of your loop.
It's like I'm a people-oriented INTP more than a thinking-focused INFJ. Maybe.
I will explore my ways and style as a child...
Thanks, Everyone, for your thoughtful responses!