Just appealed last week for mbti typing help and now that I have (tentatively) settled on enfj, I find myself reconsidering my enneagram type. It is truly open at this point - no type is off the table. I've considered myself a Type 1because that's the way I feel now - critical, discerning, somewhat negative, idealistic... But the core has never matched, and when I look back on my life pre-25 (I'm 35 now), I don't see any evidence of Oneishness. Instead of listing attributes that could pull in different directions, I just want to include the one repeating theme throughout my life and see what fits best with that.
For as long as I can remember, I've been the one who came up with the "grand schemes." I could always imagine what life would be like in a different place or with a different career. I could articulate these dreams to people I was close to and get them on board. If they changed their minds about going along with me, I would lash out and feel betrayed. I've lost a few close friends that way. I have a hard time seeing other peolple's needs and destinies being independent from my plans without taking it personally. I become jealous pretty easily. Some of my dreams have been realized, others abandoned.
Could this fit any enneagram type? Feel free to ask questions if you need more information. Thanks.