Help me out here. I've been thinking that I'm an INFJ but can't quite prove that I'm not an INFP, which has left me thinking I might be an INFP unable to prove I'm not an INFJ. Here's a bit about myself to act as a platform for interrogation, and maybe you can all play 20 questions with me after.
May as well start with some action: was recently given a swift kick out the door and a "begone" by my loving parents, who decided that if I wasn't gonna be a hardcore fundamentalist Christian parish boy, I sure as all Heaven wasn't going to not be it in their house. In the last weeks of living at home, I became something of a wreck while conflict was literally the only social interaction I had. I didn't have a place to go, so my life consisted of hiding in my room and occasionally coming out to dinner to be blasted with questions like "HAVE YOU DONE YOUR BIBLE STUDY AND REPENTED?!" My response was often silence, trying to find words to soften their coming reaction and still admit that, no, I hadn't done that because honestly I was already done with their belief system. I usually ran out of time and got blasted again with accusations of disrespect. When they tried to preach me into submission, I tried my hardest to give my own views, but I could hardly keep up with their practiced delivery, only finding holes in their logic well after the window of opportunity passed.
So, in short, I had an idea in my head that I wasn't ever going to budge on. I knew they were wrong but couldn't express why in face to face communication. Regardless of whether they "won" or not, I had made up my mind to leave and it was all really just a matter of trying to get them to accept me regardless.
Since then, I've somehow stopped regarding them as people. At the time, losing them meant I was going to lose everything. I wanted their love desperately and I fought long to keep it. But, as I've learned, they've faded away in my head to mere shades, droplets of water in that meaningless river of my past. The tie is severed. It could be repaired, I am sure, but it doesn't matter to me whether it is or not.
So, that's a little something about my conflict response.
One thing I remember reading about INFPs is that they value sentimentality. I'm really not sure about this one. I have a bracelet on my wrist right now that was given to me by a Korean who singled me out as the most fantastic person she met while she was here in Australia. I haven't seen her since she gave it to me (she flew back to Korea and deleted her Facebook), but I still wear it every day. I've tried to become attached to it sentimentally, but I just wear it because it looks cool. The same thing occurred with my girlfriend -- I had a handwritten note mailed to me, since we're long distance. The note (the only thing I owned that she has touched) was left behind when I left home and I don't miss it. I almost asked her to send me something else until I realised I didn't want that, I just wanted her to show she appreciated me.
I'll write some more as I'm prompted to, I suppose.