I am certain this topic has been approached before, but I'll ask again. How do I know if I am truly ENFP or INFP? I have tested ENFP everywhere...but I was raised by an ISFP and and ESFJ. Both lead Fi and Fe. I feel like in my relationship w/ my ENTJ spouse; I am all Fi lead. It's really hard for me to see any kind of possibility with him in our encounters anymore because I know how the encounters will go. If I know how something is going to go time after time, then I'll stop trying to dig for a new way around the interaction and just go w/ what is routine. (It probably comes from years and years and years of trying to pull a little empathy out of his backpack.) With the general public I find myself Ne-ing the crap out of "what if" w/ regard to relationships. I also have no problem with problem sovling or coming up w/ ideas if it has to do with anyone BUT myself. I'm kind of funny that way. My Ne focuses greatly on the dynamic w/in relationship possibilities and ideas on how to make my relationships better. I am also a 4w5 7w6 9w1. I am new to enneagram, but it took me about a year to really nail down whether or not I was a 4 or a 9.
My sister IS in fact INFP all the way around. I feel like she definitely plays the cards closer to her chest than I do. She's VERY intelligent. I know she has feels. All INFPs have them as deeply as any ENFP or NF for that matter....but sometimes I think INFPs are better at guarding or hiding them. That being said, I read a lot of stereotyping comments across FB (recently deactivated my acct after many years. Needed a break.) and other forums about INFPs. I guess it's just hard for me to tell at times what I lead with because % wise my Fe/Fi tend to be very close along w/ my Ne/Ni....my Perceiving is quite a bit higher than my Judging function and my E/I is pretty balanced as well. I'm one of the more shy ENFPs. I find I will defend ideas and people equally if there is a reason to do so. Keep in mind I've been tested professionally. I don't answer like I think I should answer. I answer to how I am and how I hear others perceive that I am.....but I find I am not the stereotypical bubbly, bouncy, puppy-like ENFP. I am quite serious...and maybe that's what I am struggling with....the idea that ENFPs look or act a certain way, when for so many of us it's just not the case. I also personally think male ENFPs behave differently from female ENFPs. (Don't worry I realize people can take that as a sexist comment....it's not meant to be one...it's just my personal opinion and observation of different ENFPs in the same room, over the years.) Do you think type is fluid in that we can rely on one function over another? I know I am extroverted simply because I draw my best energy around people in idea think tanks. That is when I am happiest....in a group setting discussing any old idea and forming plans and goals. I know my weaknesses and have learned to utilize help in the going the distance and finishing a project part of any goal. I think part of growing up is just learning what you're good at, and what you're not good at; then fully accepting it and learning to work w/ what is. (I am very good at doling out responsibilities to those I know can do well at different points in a project.)
That being said, in my love relationships I've always lead w/ my feels more than my Ne...the Ne was rampant in the beginning for sure; but as I settled in I notice that I'm dealing more w/ Fi than Ne. Does that an INFP make?
Soooooo in your opinion what are the biggest differences between ENFP and INFP, typically?