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    Default Not sure if I'm really introverted

    I thought I was introverted for a long time. I'm mostly quiet when I'm in conversations with other people. This is not due to nervousness though. It's just I don't know what to say. If I always knew what to say I know I will be very talkative.

    So I started questioning whether I was really introverted. I'm very talkative if I'm familiar with the subject of the conversation, but I look like an idiot if I'm not familiar.

    With regards to where I get my energy, I get energy when the conversation goes really well. But if I make a big social fau pax, it drains my energy and I have to be alone.

    If I knew what to say most of the time I would be going out a lot and talking to everyone.

    Do you guys think I'm an introvert or extrovert?

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    Quote Originally Posted by pfninja View Post
    I thought I was introverted for a long time. I'm mostly quiet when I'm in conversations with other people. This is not due to nervousness though. It's just I don't know what to say. If I always knew what to say I know I will be very talkative.

    So I started questioning whether I was really introverted. I'm very talkative if I'm familiar with the subject of the conversation, but I look like an idiot if I'm not familiar.

    With regards to where I get my energy, I get energy when the conversation goes really well. But if I make a big social fau pax, it drains my energy and I have to be alone.

    If I knew what to say most of the time I would be going out a lot and talking to everyone.

    Do you guys think I'm an introvert or extrovert?
    This will be a bad generalization maybe but extraverts I think more easily take the topics to talk about from the environment. So if you don't know what to say you likely aren't paying that much attention to stuff around you and stuff going on in the world in general. By this I mean, whatever you pay attention to is stuff you delve deep into. So you can get energy talking about those things. Extraverts on the other hand are more inclined to pay attention to several things superficially. I also think extraverts like to talk to several different people, or talk to someone and then move on and switch to talking to someone else and so on. Does that sort of socializing pattern energize you?

    I hope this helps a bit... what do you think your type is btw? (Or which Ixxx and which Exxx type were you thinking of?)

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    Well you're right. I'm not able to pay attention to a lot of things due to my ADD (self diagnosed). But i still think that i might be an extrovert in the sense that if i knew a lot about a lot of things and had lots of interesting stories, i have no doubt that i would behave like an extrovert, generally speaking.

    Most of the tests i took say im an istj

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    You could just be shy. Extroversion/introversion is more measured by whether you enjoy spending time with other people and feel a need to socialise. Some Es mistype for this reason.

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    sounds like me. I am an introvert.
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    I really dont think im shy. Whenever i meet people for the first time, i look them in the eye, shake their hand firmly, introduce myself and tell them it's nice to meet them, in a confident tone. But due to my ADD, inarticulateness, and not enough social experience, it all goes downhill from there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pfninja View Post
    I really dont think im shy. Whenever i meet people for the first time, i look them in the eye, shake their hand firmly, introduce myself and tell them it's nice to meet them, in a confident tone. But due to my ADD, inarticulateness, and not enough social experience, it all goes downhill from there.
    no i'm not shy what you said doesn't describe shyness.
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    Well people have different definitions of shyness. My personal definition of shyness is being hesitant in social situations. A shy person has something good to say but due to nervousness they hesitate to say it, leading to quietness.

    I never said you were shy btw i was replying to silentmusings.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pfninja View Post
    Well people have different definitions of shyness. My personal definition of shyness is being hesitant in social situations. A shy person has something good to say but due to nervousness they hesitate to say it, leading to quietness.
    so you're not shy because you don't hesitate. not having something to say is not hesitating. hesitating would be you have something to say but don't
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    so you're not shy because you don't hesitate. not having something to say is not hesitating. hesitating would be you have something to say but don't
    Exactly. With my definition of shyness, im not shy.

    I'm still open to hearing more people's opinions of whether im introverted or extroverted

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