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  1. #51
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    Quote Originally Posted by cascadeco View Post
    Hmm, I don't know you well at all, but, I do feel like you're much more in-your-face /unapologetic/less harmonizing (not in a 'bad' way, just saying) than e9's tend to be.

    I tend not to like typing people, but I have a hard time seeing e9 as your core fix.

    Edit: Also, I am pretty darn sure I'm strong in both 4 and 9, with 6 also in my trifix, and again, you're much more, I'll say, fiery than I am. Does sx-dom explain that alone? Maybe. But again, you don't strike me as core 9, when comparing to other 9's on the forum at least. (but I won't deny you being a 9 if you feel it fits you best )
    Thank you for your feedback, you are actually one of the tritypes I'm considering, so this was helpful.

    Hmm, I guess I am that way. Which indeed does not line up with classic e9 at all. It's really the integration/disintegration points that are actually making me consider 9 as my core. As well as the fact that I think I dismissed it too quickly when it was last suggested, so I thought I should give it a fair shot this time.

    I don't relate to 9's core motivation at all actually. I'm kind of going off the notion that sx flips everything upside down, and the fact that I consider e9 my exact opposite.

    I honestly feel 4 fits best, but there are holes I don't fill well within that one as well.

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    9w8 sx/sp

    This 9 stack receives life without hesitation. They exert very little control over their emotional lives and prefer to give themselves total freedom to experience real responses and feelings. They can have an electricity about them that is both simple and regal, being able to unconsciously convey who they are without saying much.

    They don't try to walk or move in an artificial way. They often have a great sense of humour and will push themselves to enjoy the same things as their significant others. Playfulness is especially high with this stack. But they are more rigid about who they give their energy to and are drawn to people who have similar experiences as them. This type can relate to common experience at a nonverbal level, giving them room to create a sense of harmony with others even with those who speak different languages.

    They also have a savvy business sense. And in spite of their liberal attitudes, they can have an old-fashioned approach to raising family and will give more than themselves to those they care about, often finding it very difficult to break away...Can feel oppressed, as they don't often get to do what they want for long periods of time. Sense of being reincarnated in life all the time, redefining themselves out of necessity.

    This type views their realness as having a large potential to reach people who are going through the same problems. Just knowing that gives them more room to be a little 'crazy.' Because they know that they truly aren't alone in their 'craziness.' Fear of pretending in relatonships, just going through the motions. Loses a sense of identity by giving so much of their openness and love to family or lover. It causes them to be overly sensitive to rejection, so constantly looking to do the perfect thing, which can inevitably lead to a break down. The loss of a relationship can devastate them. They may break down into a zombie-like state for years upon end and ultimately do the inevitable unless they can find something to keep them sane.

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    ^^I just spent a bit of time trying to figure out where that description is from and I apologize but I don't know. I don't think it's oceanmoonshine's...but again I don't know.

    Here's Tom Condon's 9w8 sx description. This is not to prove anything to you one way or the other. I personally do not see a 4 or 6 core in you...and your description of e4 actually read like e9 to me...but I don't feel attached to you seeing things my way.

    I do feel attached to shattering this ridiculous myth of the only expression of e9 being "whispy, voiceless peacemaker"

    Nines - Fine Distinctions
    Nine With an 8 Wing
    Awakened Nines with an 8 wing have a modest, steady, receptive core. They are charged by the dynamism of 8 - when focused on goals they often have great force of will. Get things done, make good leaders. May have an animal magnetism of which they are only partly aware. Can seem highly centered, take what they do seriously but remain unimpressed with themselves. 8 wing can bring a strong internal sense of direction. Relatively fearless and highly intuitive. Generally not intellectual unless they have it in their background.

    When more entranced, they manifest the contradictions of the two styles expressing them in sequence. Could be passively amiable like a Nine and then turn horribly blunt like an 8. One moment they are opinionated or nasty, next moment kindly and supportive. Often don't hear their voices when angry. Can have a sharp, grating edge. May be slow to anger and then explode. Or angry but don't know it; may confuse being assertive with being rude. Placidly callous - both styles support numbness. Tactless and indiscriminate and indiscreet. May be unwittingly disloyal, spilling everyone's secrets. Sexual confusion, sometimes they are driven by lust.


    CONNECTING POINTS (Stress and Security)
    Nine's Connection to 6
    The high side of this connection brings several qualities, among them courage. Whereas healthy Sixes develop the courage to do, Nines find the courage to be. Connection helps them challenge fears and take risks. Expose the inner self they usually disguise with self-effacement. Can also be especially loyal friends, faithful and committed to those they love. Connection brings tenacity and a willingness to see things through. Realistic, more able to acknowledge what can go wrong.
    More entranced, they develop a nervous, agitated quality. Can overanticipate new events, start to doubt themselves. Obsessive worry distracts them from the need to take useful action or see the obvious. Go scatterbrained. Nine's laziness is reinforced by 6's tendency to procrastinate. Nines put off what is specifically important to their well-being.
    Dependency often an issue - will hand over responsibility, then blame others for making the decisions that the Nine won't make. Cowardice, may wimp out on agreements. 8 wing and this connection can make for antiauthority attitudes.



    Nine's Connection to 3
    High side brings a kind of clarity of the heart. Can suddenly see clearly and prioritize on their own behalf. Take decisive deliberate steps towards goals important to them personally. Steady persistence: when focused, Nines are unstoppable. Connection brings energy and industry and helps with appropriate social presentation. Willing to dress up and voluntarily play roles in the service of goals.

    Unhealthy connection brings tendencies towards role-playing, vanity and hyperactivity. Can allow themselves to go false and be defined by a milieu. Play out roles based on the expectations of others. May get caught in vanity and take pleasure in being mistaken for an image. Can have a prince or princess-like quality, act a little entitled. Proud of what others praise, but secretly know it isn't who they really are. Underneath the image, a Nine may feel indefinite and numbly unworthy. Can be fascinated by phoniness in others, want to break through or tear it down. Their unfocused hyperactivity is a busy, active form of sleep.


    Intimate
    Focused on an ideal of romantic union. Get lost in one relationship or in the yearning to have one. High expectations of partner. Sometimes sound melancholy like a Four. Prone to jealousy. May settle on someone and then grow critical and have a wandering eye. Can also deny their partner's flaws and idealize them to stay in union.

    Another scenario involves multiple relationships, searching from one person to the next. Sometimes the Nine can't decide between two people. Triangulation. Paradoxically, this subtype can be fickle because they are so easily disappointed.

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    OK, so you're a 9 now? I feel like nothing makes sense anymore.

    I'm also imagining @Starry saying this to me.


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    Quote Originally Posted by senza tema View Post
    OK, so you're a 9 now? I feel like nothing makes sense anymore.

    I'm also imagining @Starry saying this to me.

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    Apparently, and I have no idea how but after seeing that 2nd description, (which I know wasn't meant for me but whatever), it's certainly starting to seem that way.

    I need to lie down.

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    Sorry, @LadyLazarus , but I don't see you as a 9. Nines are distinguished by a flat emotional response--they are creatures of inertia, center of the gut triad. They resist being stirred up emotionally. Even the sexual-firsts resist this--it's the central fixation of the type: inner sloth. Being sx-first wouldn't make a 9 magically prone to extreme emotional responses.

    Actually, most of sx9s energy will be expended in merging with an intimate, or failing that, the cosmos. They can have a sense of melancholy about life, a sense of life being transient, and can be prone to depressive downswings, but they are distinguished from 4s specifically because of their differing emotional responses.

    You, on the other hand, have expressed issues with strong emotions. You said they were all over the place, and your desire for a "rock" stems from this attribute. (Not 9.) In your response to me, you've also expressed issues with suffering from feelings of "difference" and self-consciousness. It's not so much that 9s can't feel this way, but they do tend to experience themselves as part of the background and unimportant. It's likely that they would feel they had much in common with others rather than the contrary. You'll have to determine how much of that's actually played a role in your life, but based on your responses, I'm not seeing it.

    I still think 4-core. Strong 6-fix (the fixes can be very strong). Probable 8-fix, especially if you can relate to "war" over peace (9). Even if that's only on some days.

    The wings on your fixes don't matter much as well--being 9w8-fixed doesn't necessarily make you "more 8ish". It's more about the overall flavor of your personality.

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