Consider I am a female ENTJ, even worse. Talking about identity crisis and my own confusion with self. Not to mention men are usually so struck when interacting with me, they don't know what hit them. I think in element of surprise I am worse than male ENTJ, being also very cute makes it so much harder on them. But male ENTJs seem to be more egoistic than me.
I don't know ENTPs so I don't know how that would go, but I have a female friend ESTP. She and I had a rough start, like bulls; now we are at hug stage hahah, really good buds. I have respect for strong and real people, so I guess that is where we can meet, assuming that we came to stage of mutual respect and do not try to dominate other.