Hmm, but if it's a situation that's giving him anxiety I see how a 7w6 would want to joke around and end things on a light, positive note because then they won't have to face the reality of the situation and the existential problem with him. I was talking more about mediating others, keeping the environment upbeat and happy, etc. So like you said it's when your husband himself feels tense. Whereas if someone is feeling tension from the tension of their surroundings that they feel like they feel compelled to alleviate, I'd chalk that under ESFJ.I was saying I see this in my ENFP very much! But it's when HE feels tense that he uses humor to diffuse. The situation doesn't have to actually BE negative. Even if I tell him, "hey no worries" he wouldn't hear that and he does it to alleviate HIS anxiety (6 wing).
IME there are quite a few ESFJs who make a point to not gossip due to their values, I wonder how gossip manifests in type or if it's even type-related at all. Not to refute your own experience - I think you could see gossip more in ExFJs because they have the need to seek out validation that their assessment of whatever situation it is is correct. I would say that consensus is important to them related to gossip or not.As far as the "gimme more dirt comment"
I think (sorry, stereotypes) that the ESFJ's I know have never let their Fe values get in the way of some good gossip.