Sorry for just now getting to this, Starry
That absolutely makes sense. In fact, you get bonus points for making that observation.
Originally Posted by Starry
Everyone all holding hands in a circle and dancin' around? I approve. I have a soft spot for hippies. Thank you for throwing a party in my honor.
When you finally arrived at ENFJ though... I was totally doing the Hava Nagila at a small party I put together in honor of the occasion.
- While I do join groups when they seem to be fun, interesting, or productive, I have no group loyalty. I'll drop them almost immediately, if I haven't outright made any commitments (because breaking promises is a bad thing), when I feel like I've extracted all the juice they have to offer me.
- Smalltalk is bullshit. So is beating around the bush.
- I also stay in touch with virtually nobody, though I do believe in the power of networking from a mostly utilitarian standpoint. Even then, I'm kinda bad at keeping up. I'll remember that such-and-such a guy said before that he might have a contracting opportunity in October; and so in October I'll delve into my email inbox, try to find his name and our conversation, and ring him up again.
- While I give a damn about other people and would never step on their toes to get ahead, and while I have an instinctual loyalty to my closest friends, I ultimately want to pursue my own interests.
- I'm a pretty happy, optimistic person, and it shows; but I'm actually very private. Though, I regularly take on interviews and opportunities for exposure. So long as the exposure doesn't run uncomfortably deep.
- I ain't crapping all over the ENFJ idea, but I'd be more comfortable if others' perception of the type wasn't so skewed. Not so bothered by it; but it has outright killed some discussions.
- eNxJ is pretty plausible. I've apparently given off ENFJ and ENTJ 'vibes' from a variety of places--the latter as mostly correlated with, say, Socionics; and in real life. ENTJ would be heresy, and if I were to claim it, I'd better have my flame retardant suit ready.
I honestly have no idea where w2 keeps cropping up, but I do get it a lot. I've never had codependency issues, but I've had major compulsions to keep to myself.
But why 3w4 as opposed to 3w2 I wonder? And why not so/sp? hmmm....
It seems as though I commonly give off the impression of so-first. I feel as though I'm much more reserved, private, disconnected, and brooding in real life. It's as though to the extent that I interact, those traits are shoved by the wayside. And I can interact.
3wX so/sp is, like, a politician archetype, which doesn't fit me at all. sx- or so-last is almost a coin toss. From here,
This subtype is the most reserved and introverted of the subtypes of enneatype Three, and possibly the hardest worker. They generally put a great deal of effort into their work, excelling at whatever they choose to do. They usually do what it takes to rise to the top. There is a strong desire to excel, although the areas chosen may differ widely from one Three to the next. These Threes are competitive in a quiet way. On the high side, they can be very generous with what they have learned and acquired. The driving motivation for their hard work comes down to their fear of not being good enough.
Self-pres/Sexualfit extremely well.
This subtype also focuses on material success but is overall less concerned with status. These Threes often try to do it all, be the perfect mother or father for instance, while working many hours, and maintaining relationships with friends and family. This subtype is prone to double and triple booking the hours of the day. [...] Their focus is not naturally in the social arena, so this can unnerve the self-pres/sexual Three.
edit: oh my god this was a long post. I had to go back and organize it. I had a compulsion.