You can also tell someone what you prefer, just like you would when you order a coffee. Some people just aren't familiar enough with the menu to really know what they prefer, maybe they're yet to develop a solid preference (mainly applies to younger people of course), and that's where they need to be left be to explore it.
I think this thread needs to be taken less seriously. In fact, Entropie, you're an INTJ and you always have been, an INTJ with Fi, Se and Ne... yeah... uhh... NERD!!!