i like 9 for you too @Vasilisa.
i just watched your video (you're so lovely) and i think INFJ 9w1 suits you very well. when you said coming to understanding was your aim rather than winning or losing, and how that was the one thing you identified as upsetting you most stuck out to me.
but i was thinking 9 even before i watched it. you have a very in-the-flow vibe.
another thing that kinda seemed 9 to me was when you were thinking about humanity, and the first thing you mentioned disliking was chaos or mayhem (i forget your word choices). you like peace. you're quiet and receptive and deeply feeling, and when something's not right, you sense it, and it upsets you to your core.
edit: 5 and 2 are my votes for your tritype. 5w4 2w1?