Anyways I relate to 8 because I don't like to be vulnerable. I self-disclose a lot more than others, but I have never really opened up to someone with my emotions. And I have very quick temper. Anger is the only emotion I show really. Unless I'm overly stressed and get no sleep, then I'm liable to actually break. Or if I'm caught off guard by criticism on those stressed days, I recoil and retreat.
And I would describe myself as: bold, controlling, mostly assertive, self confident, decisive, a little ego-centric, and not afraid of most confrontation.
I don't relate to 8's when they are too
overbearing though, like when they don't take no for an answer. I would never want to be the real cause or blame of someone making a crap decision, just because I can't take no for an answer. I still look for feedback. And when I get negative feedback, I reevaluate and come back with a different plan. It's just how I react (usually with anger) to that negative feedback, that makes me look 8ish. You know what I mean?
As for the 1, I can relate because I'm extremely protectionistic. In retrospect, I worked with an 8, and I often got annoyed that I had to redo their work. Yes, they took the initiative to do it, but they didn't double check their own work, which defeated the purpose of them doing it in the first place. So I relate in that I like people to carry their weight and I'm quick to spot who isn't. I'm also always striving to improve things.
And I would describe myself as orderly, organized, and some what detail oriented (usually more than others.)
I don't relate to a ones resentment though at all
(very 7 that way, I easily forgive, don't have time to hold on to stuff), or moral ethics, being principled, and I'm not a self-critic...usually I'm more critical of others (probably projection
And now actually reading about the 1w2 compared to the 8w7, it sounds like me here:
All the bold, are things I relate to.
This is from http://theenneagram.blogspot.com/2007/09/type-1.html
I didn't relate to the 8 as much as the 1 according to that site. But I also think some of the things in bold are 6 tendencies.
And according to enneagram institute I related to both types kind of equally.
This was really longer than I thought it would be, sorry!
And thank you for taking the time to help me!