I registered to this forum just to receive some help with this question, it's been driving me crazy lately I've been dating my girlfriend for almost a year now, and I can't seem to put my hands on her type. She has no interest in mbti herself and thus hasn't taken the test.
She's definitely introverted, that much I know. She's socially very capable and well-liked among the people who know her but doesn't seem to have the energy to have many friends at all. If I'm not there to keep her company, she spends her time alone doing her own things. She has told me she feels lonely very often but doesn't do anything about it because according to her, relationships are too hard to maintain and it drains her energy. She has interest in people and the world though and she seems very polite on the outside. She's the person who will run after you if you drop something, she once even went as far as searching an owner of a car just to inform them they had left their lights on in order to avoid their battery from running out o_O At work she seems to be popular as well, but she never joins her workmates for activities outside work.
She's interested and talented in a lot of things. She's very musical and she's currently working on a book. I've read glimpses of it and it's brilliant. Very surreal and kind of disturbing but nonetheless. She also seems really overall smart, she seems to have no problem grasping information and processing it, she has whooped my ass in every debate we've had. But at school she was an underachiever, her parents always tell me that if she wasn't so lazy, she'd be straight-A. This made me think of her as a T but then we started fighting about personal matters. All her logic seems to fly out of the window and she's overall very passive-aggressive, when she's upset she'll merely slam doors or give glares, it doesn't escalate into a full blown fight very often. She appears very logical when we fight, but goes overboard very often, she has emotional outbursts and she does everything within her ability to use poor logic in order to put everything on my shoulders. She seems to be hot-and-cold as well, she can calm down, we can both apologize and make up (during those times she sees the fault in herself as well) and then maybe weeks later she can remember it again and be all cold and obnoxious again. I have a hard time figuring what I've done when she does that.
Overall she's a wallower as well, she worries about everything, she's very concerned about her future and everything else, she's overall very anxious even over silly matters and can't snap out of it. She seems to go through phases of being emotionally very unstable but when we're together she's not very verbal about it. She can appear fine and then I can receive a phone call out of nowhere where she's crying about everything having been falling apart for weeks and I never noticed a thing. I'm often scared by the intensity of her emotions and wonder how her feelings and thoughts can be so complex and random, her emotions just make no sense and I often can't follow her track of thought at all. She often takes our discussions into bizarre and weird paths, quite out of nowhere as well. Also, she's terrible at coping with frustration.
I think she's a P though, her place is a mess, she doesn't have any self-discipline. She stresses about this and that needing to be done but never actually gets on with doing them, which is frustrating. Once she gets going, though, she can finish tasks fast and effectively, and at work she works diligently because she's constantly praised. For me, this is also very frustrating because she has enormous potential to do big things in her life but instead she hangs around at home worrying how she SHOULD be doing things instead of getting down to doing them.
I'm maybe leaning towards an INxP, maybe an INFP with a strong Te? I don't know, she's just so confusing. I still love her, though..