She sees me as rude about similar silly stuff that I would have to spend a lot of time thinking about to figure out why it was rude and even then I won't FEEL the rudeness of it, the "hi" example was just a really small example of that. Though there is no true "hate", she seems to have adjusted to the way I am. Some other people have not.
Not all Fe is bad, e.g. my mother's definitely an ESFJ (or plays the ESFJ role very well), she doesn't mind my style. Guess she adjusted well haha