I... don't really have an ideal in this sense?
Well at least no reason to be hard on myself lol
Except for what I said about procrastination, I can be a bit hard on myself for that.
It would also be nice to be more likeable but I guess I can't do anything about that. I do get a bit affected if I'm told things related to this, though. "Violated" isn't a bad word for that.
I've also been a bit hard on myself about friendship issues. When I got blamed (as mentioned earlier), I was hard on myself for not trying harder to provide support for her. (But then I realised that I'd actually been unaware of her actual needs because she didn't let me know and I am not a mind reader.)
Which of the following ideals resonate with you the most, and why? Rank them.
I think this makes most sense but I can't say it's a real ideal because I don't have an image of it and I don't strive for it that terribly much:
- to be a lovable person & to be loving... "benevolent" sounds good too but is maybe asking for too much (I mean, in the sense of consciously trying to be that, noo)
I like the idea of this too but quite honestly I'm really not doing much about it except when taking care of my looks (= trying to be unique then):
- to be sensitive, original, unique, and creative
I don't have a problem with these so why call them ideals:
- to be knowledgeable
- to be accomplished and successful
- to be powerful, strong, unassailable.
I don't really care about this at all:
- to be devoted and loyal to a cause
- to strive to become/behave like a good person
This only with certain prerequisites:
- to be devoted and loyal to a person (not a cause)
I don't understand what this one means:
- to be "okay", having it together ????