First, there's little insight as to the thought processes behind the contradictions, which made typing based on the OP difficult. Although her last paragraph strongly suggests "P". Other posts suggest a strong Fi element, too.
ENFPs sometimes find themselves "untypeable", and can paint a personality description full of contradictions to prove the point that they are untypeable. This is partly because they are good at looking at the many aspects of their personality. They are the most prone of the extroverts to feel like they must really be introverts. They frequently blurt out things they immediately regret, and can easily be blunt to the point of offense, and not understand how they offended others. Of all the types, they tend to be the most contradictory when it comes to valuing organization and structure, while also being scatter-brained. (In fact, an ENFP on here used to say she had a baby ESTJ trying to get out.) Her desire for control, common with ENFPs btw, could also explain some of the contradictions, such as her desire for things to be neat and orderly in the world while not necessarily being neat and orderly herself.
The original post also had good energy and was charming. Other types besides ENFPs can be charming and have good energy, of course, but that combined with the above made me decide to put ENFP out there.