The relationship between Fi, Fi descriptions and self-assertion/conflict comes up a lot, and I've had an elephant sitting on my chest over it for a while.
Do many IXFPs start more sensitive like in all those annoying internet stereotypes out there and come into their own strength with age? Like me? I was one of the shy Fi's described everyfuckingwhere when I was school-aged (believe it or not, there are a few) and still hate that little girl because it wasn't even real sensitivity to anyone but her soft self. The true thing is sensing when to stand up and doing it, which I feel is a human duty, so it makes me squirm to look back. And it's sore because I'm not all the way up out of the puddle yet. I'm harsh with myself when I don't live in line with what's important to me, if it's not obvious.
While those in my most respected/close circle would say I've always been at home in confrontation, that doesn't count to me because I believe the true determinant of personality and character is how you express your values where/when it's not easy or safe. Reading about the outspokenness of the IXFPs on TypoC prompts me to look back at all the times where I was out in the real world, beyond my self-preserving wall, and acted like more accommodating and rulebound, less evaluative than I was inside. And then I want to shove my Fi card into a toaster even though I've grown so much, just because there's further to.
Yes, it's a big specific fuss over a function. Perspective is what I'm laying this out for.
But, back to my question. Youth. Fi. The different morphs people who use it go through as they grow up. To Fi users, dominants especially, who are older than me (mid to late 20s and beyond), do you relate to any of this?