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    Quote Originally Posted by small.wonder View Post
    Hey Mal+, thanks! Hmm...I don't know that I relate totally to any of the groups but:

    Group A
    1. Yes.
    2. Yes.
    3. I've experienced this to some extent.
    4. Eh, subtle and inclusive of others, but I also tend to provide challenge.

    Group B
    1. Yes, though not just one deep relationship-- that's co-dependent in my mind. I prefer a handful of deep relationships over many (or any) superficial ones.
    2. Somewhat, though my long term goals are more like ideas that can change a bit with time and new info. I don't create goals for others, that's their job.
    Well, somewhat, but if you're the BOSS... ("My leadership style is quiet yet persistent as I make a determined effort toward long-range goals for myself, others, and the organization I work for.")

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    Quote Originally Posted by Forever_Jung View Post
    (the INFP stuff beneath is all my own experience, so I'm not sure if this is just me)

    Meanwhile, an INFP will almost always avoid conflict, unless it interferes with a core value. This is because we don't like to impose our vision on the environment. We want people to change their ways due to a shift in internal state, and we promote our values via modelling them, and living them out as best as we can.

    If someone does something kinda inconsiderate, I'll let it go, since people have a right to express themselves as individuals. Who knows what kind of shit they have going on in their life, maybe I'd act that way too if I were in their position. That value, to me at least, trumps the need to always be polite and perfect.

    However, if this person is consistently a dick, eventually I'll reach a point where I'll hulk out on inferior Te and be like: "THAT'S ENOUGH! No one has the right to behave like that all the time. You are making me feel (blank), please stop this behaviour." The problem is, a lot of my inferior function is speaking now, and I have a shitty handle of Te, and it makes my words come out a bit harsh and undiplomatic. And that person will usually give me this routine: Wow! Where did THAT come from? Don't expect me to be mind reader, Jeremy. Jeez, to think I thought you were nice, blah, blah, blah.

    Then the other person seems to think I should apologize to THEM. And while I do feel bad, I can't believe that they seem to think they were hit out of nowhere. I usually monitor other people's internal state pretty closely, so I'm surprised when I realize how little they pay attention to mine. What they don't understand is that by allowing something to happen once, I was not telling them that I think what they did is ALWAYS okay. That is a generalized Je way to look at things. I don't have a general set of interpersonal laws I always follow. I believe in giving people enough wiggle room for individual circumstances. Really, I let things go in good faith, assuming they'll correct it.

    That being said, if I was smart and approached the situation in a Je way, I would communicate these feelings to people immediately, rather than 100 incidents later. However it's very uncomfortable and difficult for me to verbally articulate exactly what's happening internally in the moment. It's something I need to work on, to be sure.

    I'm starting to lose myself in my brain, not sure if that makes sense. However, I hope this helped you decide whether you're INFP/INFJ.

    For the record, you seem INFP to me, but it's difficult to tell based on what you said in the video.
    Thank you for your insight! Disclaimer: Most of what I'm saying here is in regards to people I'm at least acquainted with. I won't generally confront a random person, unless they are being offensive or causing harm.

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    I don't mind imposing my vision on the environment, because I know the person has the choice to dismiss what I've said and move on. I do think I also "walk the walk" though as you mention.

    If someone is behaving inconsiderately, I may start by saying "Hey, the way you just said that seemed angry. What's on your mind?" I guess I want to acknowledge the fact that they are directing anger at me, while also making myself available to hear them out. Usually this prevents an explosion later, as you mentioned. Even if they won't admit they are angry about something, at least I tried.

    When I was very unhealthy and disintegrating to 2, I had passive aggressive explosions all the time. Perhaps that's why honesty and intentional confrontation is so important to me now.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DJ Arendee View Post
    she has zero Se Qi. When I look at her I feel like I'm looking at gold leaf. extremely fragile.

    If I invited all my friends to have a nerf gun war in her house, she'd flip a shit.

    Typical INFP.
    Wtf man! My Infp bf would be all about a nerf gun fight.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X View Post
    Wtf man! My Infp bf would be all about a nerf gun fight.
    Arendee only usually works in stereotypes. The way this is going he is going to be giving his nut sack and getting acquainted with her brother after all. I hope he's hungry.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Standuble View Post
    Arendee only usually works in stereotypes. The way this is going he is going to be giving his nut sack and getting acquainted with her brother after all. I hope he's hungry.
    I haven't read the thread so this makes no sense to me!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X View Post
    I haven't read the thread so this makes no sense to me!!!
    Apologies. On one of the previous pages he said that if the girl wasn't an NFP he would give his left nut sack and suck her brother's nut sacks. The use of stereotyping doesn't bode well for him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X View Post
    Wtf man! My Infp bf would be all about a nerf gun fight.
    Depends on whether it were a massive army out in the open or a stealthy Most Dangerous Game Nerf fight. I'd avoid the former but be all over the latter. One of my favorite things as a kid was playing gun fight with my bro.

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    Quote Originally Posted by brainheart View Post
    Depends on whether it were a massive army out in the open or a stealthy Most Dangerous Game Nerf fight. I'd avoid the former but be all over the latter. One of my favorite things as a kid was playing gun fight with my bro.
    Well it doesn't depend for him. He'd be all about it.

    Point being its a horrible way to type someone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X View Post
    Well it doesn't depend for him. He'd be all about it.

    Point being its a horrible way to type someone.
    Oh I don't know. I'm an INFP who is terrified of conflict and would do anything for harmony with the universe. Did I mention that I'm very feminine and shy?

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    Quote Originally Posted by DJ Arendee View Post
    INFP's tend to be Type A while ENFP's tend to be type B. fyi.

    People with Type A personalities are often high-achieving "workaholics" who multi-task, push themselves with deadlines, and hate both delays and ambivalence.

    Oh yeah, so totally me.

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