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    Default INTJ or INFJ? Dating Site Description

    Help me figure out my type! Here's my self-description from a dating site I just started using:

    Our ideal first date would be a picnic under a tree by a pond or a creek. If you had a dog, I'd encourage you to bring him/her.

    I'd bring the food--in preparation, I'd ask you what you don't like and what food you normally eat. I'd craft some Hors d'oeuvres for us and bring them in a pic-a-nic basket with some wine and a patterned blanket. Inside the pic-a-nic basket there would also be some clever (and probably nerdy) gadgets like some sporks and a fancy cork-screw swiss army knife.

    I'll ask you to lay the blanket down under the tree, and as you're doing so, I'll reveal a neat little speaker from the basket which I'll plug into my phone. Then I'll place it by the tree and put on some French cafe-style music, like "Hot Club Sandwich" and "Seth-Ford Young."

    As we're preparing the picnic, I'll want to ask some rather blunt questions about you that I've been thinking about after sizing you up since meeting you. But of course, I've had years of practice in warming people up before getting to such personal topics. But small talk can still be a struggle.

    Eventually, we might end up talking about some pretty deep topics related to psychology, philosophy, our purposes in life, why your best friend is your best friend, how our parents affected us, etc.

    And I might even take on the role of a therapist or confidante, even when I first meet you. You might reveal some insecurities and past events that are very dear to you, and I'll warmly appreciate the fact that you feel comfortable and trust me enough to do so. I really enjoy getting to know people intimately, and the more intimately I know you, the more compassion I'll feel for you. On the other hand, there are few people I feel comfortable sharing my true self with, and I'm slow to reveal myself to strangers.

    Sometime during our date, if I haven't already done so numerous times upon meeting you, I'll do something highly awkward, like excuse myself from our picnic so I can relieve myself in the nearby bushes. When I return, I'll apologize and attempt to pick up where we left off.

    Somewhere during our conversation, flirty things will happen. I might make a bad pun and then follow it with a naughty gaze. I might actually ask you to repeat yourself because I was distracted by your beauty, and tell you so. You might tease me for the way I say "pellow" (pillow) and "melk" (milk). Or maybe the wine will just get to us ;-)

    Now the dry facts about me:

    I'm strict about what I like and what I will and will not do. However, I will not tell you what you should like or what you should or shouldn't do, unless you ask me.

    There's not enough time in the world to learn all the things I want to learn and master all the skills I want to master.

    I'm studying Psychology in college, but on the side I'm learning Tech skills such as website design and computer programming (via MOOCs). I look forward to working with a young, energetic StartUp in California (really idealistic, I know!) related to education or directly helping people live their lives better. I'm totally willing to intern or work for a non-profit as well.

    If an opportunity presented itself, I'd definitely start up a company. It would most likely be related to bringing out the potential in people (like teaching Emotional Intelligence to children) or helping people find passion and meaning in life (like this website).

    I absolutely love parties with a bunch of people that I'm already familiar with. However, a party with mostly strangers is often too much stimulation for me to handle, and sometimes I'll freeze up and withdraw when in places like nightclubs. I need more time to get to know people before I can feel comfortable around them.

    I read some strange books. I read books on topics including fitness and nutrition, philosophy, self-help, psychology, mindfulness meditation, and some business books. Currently, I have 124 books saved in my Amazon shopping cart (mostly nonfiction) that I plan on reading sometime in my life...
    It sounded great in my head...

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    Are INTJ and INFJ the only things we get to pick from? Have you considered any other possibilities? To tell you the truth, I think I'd need to interact with you a bit before making the call.
    A student said to his master: "You teach me fighting, but you talk about peace. How do you reconcile the two?" The master replied: "It is better to be a warrior in a garden than to be a gardener in a war." - unknown/Chinese

    http://www.typologycentral.com/forum...=61024&page=14

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    I put those two types in the title because it was straight-forward. But I'm totally open to being typed as any other type.
    It sounded great in my head...

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    Hahaha...okay, in that case, I'll be back. Of course, I may not know anything when I get here, but I'll pretend like I do anyway and we can have fun trying to figure you out, or at least a reasonable facsimile thereof.
    A student said to his master: "You teach me fighting, but you talk about peace. How do you reconcile the two?" The master replied: "It is better to be a warrior in a garden than to be a gardener in a war." - unknown/Chinese

    http://www.typologycentral.com/forum...=61024&page=14

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    I sense significant Fe-use in your description, with a bit more N than S: so some kind of NFJ perhaps?
    I've been called a criminal, a terrorist, and a threat to the known universe. But everything you were told is a lie. The truth is, they've taken our freedom, our home, and our future. The time has come for all humanity to take a stand...

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    haha, INFJ
    RobertCalifornia: TL thinks im black
    RobertCalifornia: shes my homegurl
    Hive: arent you
    SpankyMcfly: wait... you arent?

    thoughtlost: I am not really religious. I just like getting free stuff from churches.

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    Out of the 2 you offer I lean more to INFJ but you may want to look into INFP as well?

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    I though INFP. Or ENxJ.

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    Out of the 2 you offer I lean more to INFJ but you may want to look into INFP as well?
    Thanks for the feedback. Why do you say INFP?
    It sounded great in my head...

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    I sense significant Fe-use in your description, with a bit more N than S: so some kind of NFJ perhaps?
    Good feedback. After reading more about Fe, I see what you mean.
    It sounded great in my head...

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