Hello again - INTP certainly looks most promising right now. You are, at the very least, an NP.
I have often wondered if I was INTP but the stereotypical INTP is very masculine, withdrawn almost. I am interested in people from a philosophical and academic perspective and I do have strong values which leads me to care for them, but this caring is not really instinctive or natural. I choose it, and I can feel the choice. I tend to deal with emotions rationally.
There are stereotypes, but that's all they are and most people aren't one, so don't worry about that. The philosophical and academic perspective is very INTP.
Although people find me very empathetic, I know that I am not as kind on the inside as I am on the outside
Fits with INTP. This is due to their Fe, so people are going to see that side of them, but they are Ti-dom so inside they are much more rational and perhaps colder. But because it is an introverted function, not many people are going to notice it.
Here are some phrases I particularly related to from the articles.
I think since you relate much more to Ti, we can rule out Fi for now.
I am wondering if I am an INTP that uses Fe quite a lot as I am a mother and have to deal with people a lot in my life? However, this statement also could make sense of things, making me an INFP "Introverted Feeling also works to shape its own worldview—a personalized system of values—that can serve as a platform for self-understanding and decision-making. In this sense, it is similar to Ti, which also involves a process of building or modifying an inner structureâ€
Do you have a question that might help me decide between those two options? Or do you think I might be a whole other type? So often, leading Fi types are described as 'shy' and I really am not. I may not want to be with people all the time, or need to be with them much, and I certainly avoid phone calls etc., but I am not shy.
It definitely makes sense that as a mother you would be making use of your F functions. It could be either Fi or Fe though.
Ti mostly wants to find ‘truth’. As an introverted function, it is subjective, so their own subjective truths- what makes sense to them (this differs from Te, which is objective, in the sense that it is not personal truth, but ‘collective’ truth- using tried and tested methods; the scientific method is very much Te).
Fi, rather than focusing on ‘truth’ bases themselves around their values. So they have a set of values that they care deeply about. Ti tries to remain detached from their feelings, whereas Fi cannot be detached as they need to remain connected to their personal value system.
Fi-doms aren’t necessarily shy, so I wouldn’t use that to eliminate it. What you are describing here though is classic introversion. There is probably enough evidence to say you are an Introvert, unless you have something to suggest otherwise.
Hi again - I thought maybe I'd make an effort, since you are making an effort with me, so I did the test again. This was my result:
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Apparently this makes me likely to be an INTP. Others have thought I was this too - I have even actually been called an absent minded professor - but people also assume I am a feeler and think of me as a mother (I do have 5 children!). Infinite Bubble thought I was a feeler too. Also I am quite socially capable though I hate organising social things and have always been very content with few friends. I do like being amongst the people I am studying with or my husband/close family and discussing things. and I love to go out dancing sometimes also, but this is not so much social as a physical release that helps unclog my mind!
If you are an INTP, it still fits, because like I mentioned above, what others and most likely myself are seeing is Fe. In fact, it is usually the opposite with Fi users at first- they are often cold on the outside and warm on the inside.
Do you think I am totally self decieved when doing the tests (I am trying to be utterly honest), or have I just developed myself unusually due to life circumstances? Am I more likely to have turned myself into an INTP, or for this to be my base personality?
The tests aren't really conclusive- they often give odd results that show functions that are almost never the order of an actual type. It can give you an inclination, but don’t trust it to give accurate measurement of the development for your functions. Although Ti is by far in the lead, so we can take that from it.
This question might help - what was you like before becoming a mother? Were you still relatively similar but without having to care for your children, or completely different?
I am more patient and realistic, though I blow up violently when utterly frustrated - he doesn't do this.
Seems like an inferior-Fe eruption. Rational and calm typically, suddenly become emotional and irrational under stress, and because Fe is focused externally, this leads to an explosion which is seen in the outer world.
He initiates things - LOVES answering the phone (I hate it), and getting the mail (I don't care).
Your husband probably has the In-Charge or the Get-Things-Going interaction style. These are the ‘initiating’ styles. INxPs are not either of these. They are more responders than initiators. There is a correlation between the styles and type. This page has the four descriptions and type correlations near the bottom:
http://www.interactionstyles.com/
Try and figure out which one you are; it would be a massive help and really narrow down which your type is.