That's interesting what you said about the four pushing their image like a 2ish pride. I would lean toward 6 for that reason.
Yes. I was actually considering 9. Once I got 9 as the highest type on a test.
Also, this one person I know (who knows me well) said I resembled the 9w1 description out of all the other wings. But then also said recently that I could resemble the 4w3 type from a much shorter description.
Maybe I could be a 9. Thanks for mentioning. I guess I try to give less of a presence as possible. I can't stand arrogance; like a clear excessive streak is annoying in itself, and if that really stands out in people I could get het up. When I'm around others, I'm pretty observant, but not excessively observant. I like to keep track of what's happening so I'm not too confused (?) or out of it (?), I don't know why really. I do try to keep my clothing and hairstyle and everything at a constant, and not standoutish type. My brother would always go 'why don't you change your hair? your hair makes you look like a dork' and I would go 'the fact that I can keep my hair one way, shows that I don't get carried away with new trends, that come and go'.
When I see conflict I try to keep my composure, and I try to internally envision a naturally good path to go through and I try to go through with it. Not to say I can't get hostile, I can also get hostile, but usually up to the point if the other side is much more hostile. I only return what people conflict (?) unto me. (Though this could just be INFP Fi values).
When other people get into an argument, I do what it takes to calm them down and see the situation rationally. It also kind of depends on how conflicting the conflict is, some conflicts are just stone cold and I can feel my heart beat louder and louder and then I just scream out things like "stop", etc. It's the worst when your family gets into a fight, then it's just painful and I don't care I would rather have it stop than anything. I don't know whether this is related to enneagram at all, but I usually base ideas of handling conflict around the "lower" ways I've reacted in the past, like I would always remember how "low" I have gone to stop a conflict (like if I was a kid and I started screaming or crying about it or something). This stuff is hard to explain, so hopefully you understand. And thanks so much btw! I actually thought no one was going to reply for a while.