Hi guys, I'm Bon, otherwise known as LittleTalks
I've identified as INFJ for as long as I've known about MBTI, which is going on about nine years. I've never been officially typed, but I first tested as an INFJ, and further tests have said the same thing....confirmation bias, I guess?
What has confused me is the fact that I've been part of an INFJ MBTI community for about a year, but I don't feel terribly connected to them, nor do I see a lot of similarities between what they post and I want to post.....
This has left me wondering if I am actually an INFJ at all.
When I was first tested as an INFJ, I was under a huge amount of stress, and was tested in a workplace environment severely disaligned to my natural capabilities and where I felt like a total fish out of water (I was working in a team group of 6 ISTJs - all accountants - and one INFP). I was only 20/21.
These are the things that lead me to query the fact that I'm an INFJ/sit on the fence......anyway, here are a few characteristics:
-I'm inherently attracted and have worked in busy, go-go-go, complex jobs involving heaps of communication and people contact. Generally, relationship management, case management, a little bit of training, journalism, youth work, project development (I've really had quite a varied career). I can deal with all sorts of people - I've worked with big corporates, tradespeople, teenagers, teachers, highly marginalised people.....
-I do need downtime for "me", but I am starting to wonder if that is because I've needed to develop this part of myself because I've been single for an extended period. I lived totally alone for two and a half years, and I didn't totally love it. It was a little too much solitude for me
-I don't really get that predictive mystical feeling a lot of INFJs get, but I am rather pragmatic, open minded, and believe anything is possible under the right circumstances but that most things follow a fairly standard pattern. I DO seem to have a sixth sense to predict corporate downfall or structures that disintegrate, and I'm also pretty good at picking couples that won't last.
-I spend a lot of time thinking about people and how individuals work.
-I think I'm caretaking but I like to help people by providing information or tools to help themselves.
Things that I find hard:
-Sales-y types and/or behaviour: I HATE hype. I can see through sales techniques easily and I hate people hyping up things to sell them. I think good things sell themselves.
-I hate "selling" for the sake of selling, in all aspects of my life - I don't like the idea of traditional "sell yourself" dating, and I don't like having to make marketing calls for a crappy service, but I don't have generally inherent problems with promoting or publicising something I believe in, and I have good instincts in doing so - I've been able to grow a couple of really large youth programs (and teenagers are not an easy sell).
-I'm not terribly externally organised, I get a bit flustered, and I tend to be a bit unaware of my surroundings - but more in a "poor spatial awareness" way than a "poor social cues" way
Things that I struggle with
-Super judgemental people (I consider myself really openminded).
-People that don't openly talk about their feelings.
The one thing I have realised I really struggle with is dealing with and identifying jealous behaviour towards me. It makes my head spin. I don't think I'm a very jealous person at all, but I've had some really HUGE, nasty issues with people who (in hindsight and after much discussion) have been jealous for one reason or another that I would never have predicted. Of late, though, I've realised that previous strategies of befriending or trying to expose some weaknesses to these people don't work, and I tend to keep them on the periphary of my life...
So, after that brain dump, does anyone have any initial instincts about whether I am in fact an INFJ or not, and what I might be? I'm still suspecting an N and F, but I was never very strong on the I testing and not at all convinced on the J....
Throw questions my way, I'm all ears...