Okay, I'm thinking about actually pushing for getting something started. I feel fairly confident.. maybe. But I am so terrible at typing people, especially people I know well.. yeah doesn't make much sense does it? Here's what I've got:
Keep in mind that: She kinda had a rough upbringing. Her mom is a self obsessed, well.. ho, had more than a couple of affairs and is a very real alcoholic. Her and her many sisters duked it out on a daily basis, and had a kind of Lord of the Flies thing going on.
She was a party girl back in the day.. got pregnant as a teen, guy is black, she's white, she liked him because he was exciting, flamboyant. She got her act together and is now a computer programmer and got her son though his Junior year.. pushing to college. She's very smart, but not intellectual, like at all. Doesn't like.. books, blech. Or weird stuff, unless it's funny.
Her values seem to shift around a bit.. god, this is kind of sounding bad isn't it? Mostly they kind of take on whatever is around her. But she always tends towards the rough & tumble & horse sense. If she gets pissed at somebody, and I'm hoping it takes a bit, she really just really wants to hit them, mostly.
Her second very long term boyfriend is an absolute bore, she claims she ended up with him because she wanted 'normal', didn't work.
She dresses pretty sharp at work. She buys a whole new work wardrobe every fall. Casually, she's just kind of a jeans a t-shirt type of girl. But, she secretly wants to put rhinestones on everything and wear a feather boa, but feel self conscious about doing it. Watches tons of trashy reality TV. Hates meetings and any kind of confinement.
She doesn't like feelings, nope.. not to talk about them.
She walks like she's going to kick somebody's ass, and likes upbeat dance music. Does not like holding hands or PDA. Likes to drink and watch people. She has in fact raced against me in taking a piss when coincidentally splitting off to the restrooms simultaneously. Only after the fact did I know there was even a contest.
"I know I just look like a small blonde girl, but in my mind I'm 7' tall and Darth Vader."
"I am a citizen of the Hip Hop Nation."
"I just can't stay mad at people, even when I should. I just can't remember it."
Hmmm.. I dunno. I guess I really like her because she just is so sensual to me, and also she's a fighter. When I first met her she was on the heavy side, and even then she had this really engaging way she lives in her skin. And she has absolutely near zero abstraction ability. When she talks about a situation, she is talking about a specific person and specific instance.