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    I'm starting to wonder if I might actually be So/Sx. I suppose I don't really care about comfort and security that much, and I really do want to find someone who's like me, who I can connect with and be intimate with. Before I was thinking I was Sx last because although I desire intimacy, I've never really been intimate with anyone, and I never talk about my feelings IRL. But maybe I just haven't found anyone I really trust that much yet, so I think I could still be Sx second.

    Social/Self-pres

    One might think that the energy of this subtype would be warmer and friendlier than that of the self-pres/social, but it doesn’t usually present that way. Because the social instinct is dominant, these Fives are much more aware of their role in the group. They are therefore more careful of their involvements with others. The social arena is more important and is invested with more energy, so these Fives will pull up faster and harder into self-pres mode if they should feel at all threatened. This will sometimes give others the impression of coldness. This subtype will center a lot of their intellectual interest around the workings of society, humanity or spirituality. This serves as their connection with people. By means of these abstract mental constructs, Fives of this subtype feel a sense of belonging socially, without having to be personally involved and invested. The healthier people of this subtype are, the more they are able to integrate their mental constructs with their actual experiences. They can really be content to adopt the role of “people watcher,” but they do it from a closer and closer perspective. Their blind spot revolves around the fact that they tend to convince themselves they can get along just fine in the observer role. It does feel safer to them. If they do have a few people relatively close to them, they can really strike a good balance between their need to withdraw and their need to connect to the larger social world.

    This subtype could be seen as the most intellectual of type Five. The combination of the basic desire for knowing with the social instinct’s need to "fit in," makes people of this subtype want to find a niche as the expert. Their interest in structure, especially social structure, accentuates their natural inclination for acquiring knowledge. With the sexual instinct least developed, this subtype is in the position of having a strong pull towards understanding the workings of the world around them, without the emotional intensity of the sexual instinct setting up any distraction. These Fives fit the role of the scientist or professor quite well in this respect.
    Social/Sexual

    When reasonably healthy, people of this subtype can be very engaging (for a Five). They smile a lot and are often friendly. Their energy is quite different from the social/self-pres subtype because both the social and sexual energies push outwards, and so partly balance out some of the withdrawing tendencies of the Five. This doesn’t mean that people of this subtype are necessarily any healthier however. The outgoing energy is not the result of true integration to Eight but is the result of the compulsive pull of the instincts. People of this subtype are usually warm and when feeling secure are likely to let people in and even to initiate contact. When they feel insecure however, they can actually go to the other extreme and be very shy. For this reason, people of this subtype could easily be mistyped; those Fives who withdraw from social contact because of feelings of insecurity, might not seem like social subtypes at all. It might not be obvious that they actually very much desire contact. For people of this subtype, the social instinct actually works as a release value for the sexual component. When relaxed and comfortable with others, the sexual instinct can easily be seen.


    People of this subtype are very aware of how they “fit in,” and also experience the sexual drive of wanting to connect with intimates. Like other social/sexual subtypes, they have the tendency to cultivate many relationships. They want to be liked by everyone, but being Fives they also tend to hold a part of themselves back for fear of rejection or of being overwhelmed by the demands of the relationship. This subtype of Five is more likely to fear rejection than the other subtypes of Five. Because both of the dominant instincts are focused on people, any failure in the realm of interpersonal relationships triggers a fear that there is no safety in the world. Personality systems like the Enneagram function as tool to help this subtype of Five to feel safe in the world. People of this subtype tend to think that the more they understand people, the less chance they have of being rejected. This tends to be a blind spot for people of this subtype as they don’t see that what will actually help them to become healthier is gaining more life experience. This will help them to see that their world will not come to an end with a little rejection.
    Something I'm wondering about is "When relaxed and comfortable with others, the sexual instinct can easily be seen." What exactly does the sexual instinct look like in a 5?

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    I don't think what you highlighted really relates much to the instincts specifically - they seem far too applicable to Fives in general. In fact, those descriptions are pretty crap altogether - I don't think they make a lot of effort in making a real distinction.

    From what I can gather: Sexual detachment is all about hoarding and acting upon intimate secrets, as well as establishing confidentiality - "is it safe to share my knowledge with you". Avarice for allure and intimacy can express itself in obtaining and keeping secrets or confidential information, either for oneself or between trusted confidantes. As always, this detachment can become a trap: the allure of "secrets" and "confidential information" can become effective substitutes for genuine intimacy and merging.
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    I strongly question the notion that you're an intp.

    thinking of you

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    Quote Originally Posted by sleuthiness View Post
    I strongly question the notion that you're an intp.

    Coming from you, that's a pretty good sign that he is a true INTP actually.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Speed Gavroche View Post
    Coming from you, that's a pretty good sign that he is a true INTP actually.
    *she

    I made the same mistake when I first saw her posting.

    Sorry about that RevlisZero. :/
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    Quote Originally Posted by sleuthiness View Post
    I strongly question the notion that you're an intp.
    Why is that?

    Quote Originally Posted by Speed Gavroche View Post
    Coming from you, that's a pretty good sign that he is a true INTP actually.
    Lol, I'm actually a girl. Everyone assumes I'm a guy for some reason. Is it the picture? The name?

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    Quote Originally Posted by RevlisZero View Post
    Lol, I'm actually a girl. Everyone assumes I'm a guy for some reason. Is it the picture? The name?
    Yes, I guess "zero" sound very masculine.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Speed Gavroche View Post
    Yes, I guess "zero" sound very masculine.
    I suppose. But it's a number! Numbers should be neutral! Especially zero. Oh well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RevlisZero View Post
    Lol, I'm actually a girl. Everyone assumes I'm a guy for some reason. Is it the picture? The name?
    Because the cat looks masculine/male.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hazashin View Post
    Because the cat looks masculine/male.
    Really? I thought I picked a pretty neutral picture.

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