I thought he was a INTJ, he tested as one (online) but now I'm starting to doubt it. Maybe ISTJ?
Our communication tends to go as follows (and we are discussing relationship related topics);
Me: It could be like this /presents one of several likely theories
Him: No, its like this /presents a concluded “set in stone” solution to the topic
Me: Maybe, but it also could be seen as this or this
Him: No its like I say. /tries to show solution down my throat
Me: I see you point, but I will not disregard the other theories yet
Him: /getting very frustrated. But I'm telling you it's like this
Three days later he has adopted a less rigid view of the matter.
He gets upset if I tell him we need to discuss a topic and leaves it at that. I'm thinking I'm giving him time to think about it, he sees it as throwing an challenge in his face and don't let him “defend” him self. Or fix the problem I just told him we have. I had no idea it was a problem, I thought it was a point of interest we could discuss later.
I like to explore any idea or concept and right now I'm exploring this relationship. I suck at handling feelings so I need a lot of time to process things. He has made up his mind a about us, and I am now part of a Plan. Its on a time schedule. He wants to get married. I have no idea what I feel about that idea. The whole concept of marriage is foreign to me and I don't know what the point is apart from creating extra paperwork if we split up later. If its really that important to him, fine, I'll do it if I'm still happy in the relationship in a few years.
- Points of interest (?) to type him:
- He's highly intelligent
- He works hard to achieve his goals
- He's so tidy it's pedantic
- He will express affection as in “I love you” but that's it.
- He makes decisions based on very little information and apart from when he is talking about feelings he's often right
- He's comfortable with the decisions he's made
- He's self confident to the point where he comes off as arrogant
- He's dependable and loyal but will not hesitate to sever ties if someone in his life “brakes his rules of proper conduct”
- He's creative, makes music and is considered very talented and technically proficient
- An idea most be applicable or it has very little value
- He's a leader type but prefers to work alone
- He's future-oriented
- He likes systems and seems to be really good at finding flaws in them
- Everything can be improved. By him. Including my inability to pay my bills on time
- It's his perspective or none
- He has horrifyingly high standards and expects everyone else to live up to them (and I have trouble grasping how on earth I can meet those in his head...)
I'm not very good at typing other people, so if anyone has an opinion I'd be grateful.